Mom has to be put in long term care and it’s killing me ,,it’s been Mom and I since my sister died 4years ago and now the house will be so lonely without her..my heart is broken ..I’m touring these long term care places and they seem all the same ,,I love my mom and wish she could come home ..my life seems empty knowing she won’t come home ...she is beccoming harder to transfer and he Alzehemiers is getting worse ..she has Medicaid and Medicare and i am having separation anxiety,,I do have a caregiver 12 hours a day when I work at the hospital..but I need help on my days off ...I am gonna see if she can get in and out of the car ..as you see I’m having a rough time excepting this ...no place is good enough for my mom ..wish I was rich,.i have No family help or really anyone that cares about us ,,since my sister passed away ...I’m a lost soul.
No doubt the adjustment will be huge, you'll find yourself on your way to check on her or planning her dinner or waking up because you're sure you heard her call, but then you will remember. But you will hopefully also start to feel the relief from the weight of the burden of her care, I liken it to a background hum you don't even notice until it suddenly stops. You will soon feel too busy being her advocate, visiting and coordinating her care, but you will also be able to sleep blissfully through the night and eat a meal uninterrupted.
I hope things work out for you and your mother.
I'm not sure how to get a bed available. I was so terrified and insistent when I contacted places, I think they were impressed it was an emergency and they agreed to see me immediately. It didn't take long, once I made my decision.
Can you get on a waiting list or is that not possible?
Also, the easiest route is for her to be transferred from a hospital, so keep that in mind if she develops anything at all.