My mother fell the day before Thanksgiving and shattered her femur. She is currently in Rehab and not doing well at all. She had complications after the surgery but overcame them shortly. Since she has been in rehab she refuses to eat and is barely drinking. She is nausea all the time and complains of her mouth being sore. She is skin and bones and we don't know what to do (family) to get her to eat. I asked her why she does eat and she says when she looks at the food she does not want it. She is not sleeping all the time but mostly alert. I hate to see her like this and I hope that she can recover to some extent. I don't know if I can handle her passing and all I want to do is comfort her the best way I can emotionally and physically.
It is very difficult to accept when a loved one is dying to make the change from getting better to comfort care is not easy, but before you make that assumption ask some difficult questions It seems from what you have said she is not receiving the best possible care. Maybe she should be moved back to the hospital for more acute care. How was she doing when she was moved to rehab? Was she generally healthy before she broke her femur? A month is too short a time to loose a great deal of weight if she was previously healthy. Maybe you just had not noticed or she hid it from you that she was declining. Lots of things to think about. Blessings. many others will answer with differing opinions