Mom just wants to give up she does not want to go anywhere, do anything no physical therapy, she does not want to go the bank once a month, nothing, its like she is giving up, she is very depressed about my dad, she wont go to counseling, the doctor put her on antidepresents to get her out of this but that is not working, my niece and I do not want to watch her die, she lives alone my niece goes over there everyday, and I do Sundays I work 2 jobs and try to take care of my family as well, she does not want to go to a home, or have some stranger come in and take care of her, all she wants to do is die in her recliner, what am I going to do?
Consider taking her to lunch at an assisted living comunity so she can see first hand what "homes" are like these days.
This is not a nursing home, it is Assisted Living. Some of these facilities are like going on a cruise: day trips, activities, good food, meds managed. And we can visit mom any time night or day. The problem is, she is never in her room, she is always out socializing.