She'll say she's getting a cold. She said she doesn't need help in bathing, yet she does not do it. She'll say there is sand in her water and ask if we can feel it? Of course there isn't any. I've offered her to bath at my home, she said I also have sand. I've told her I'd call the Water Dept, which her reply is that she has called. When I ask what they said, she has no answer. I insist let me call and find out if there is work order for her home. Then she'll flat out say I'm not bathing. She has a chair and hand assist attached to her tub, but she won't bath.
Put a chair by the kitchen sink and give her a sponge bath. When it's time to do her naughty bits, have her stand up and hang on to the counter, if that's a problem. Powder her up . . . put aromatic lotion all over . . . done.
Do her hair with a very wet washcloth, a little shampoo, and a plush towel around her neck and shoulders.
This works fine for mom. She was afraid to get in the shower. She wasn't far off. Getting her in and out, even with grab bars all over the darned place, was an accident waiting to happen.
You do it yourself the first time. Have her care giver watch. She should be able to do it in the future. Don't take "no" for an answer. Try humor, too. "Mom!! If we don't do THIS?? We're going to have to hose ya' down!!"