She is upset about it too and of course, she wakes up with a wet bed/pad/nightie and sometimes sheets and mattress pad. She acts like it upsets her too, and I believe it does upset her, but even during a daytime nap she will take them off. Lately, I make sure she uses the potty right before she goes down, and as soon as she gets up, so wearing one during the day is less important, but she will take them off in the daytime too if she has one on. She's otherewise very compliant and easy to care for. And has minimal dementia...
So...I stay prepared. I have 3 different waterproof mattress pads...that I change out. If she has wet the bed...then off with the soiled pad and on with the clean pad and new sheets.
I let them air dry in the spare room to save the pad and the water and electric bill. I don't mention the wet bed...I don't want to embarrass her. So I just say..."it's laundry day!" While being pleasant. And my Mom loves to help me make the bed...so it's a win-win for us.
amazon/Posey-Soft-Hand-Mitts/dp/B000R91Q0C#
$57.00
However, my daughter was ready to grow OUT of diapers, not stay IN them.
LOL... good play on words *in brief*.
I don't know WHY she does that . . . and neither does she. Doesn't even remember it. Sometimes, she just takes them off -- THIS the lady who can't take off her own shoes!
She wears a small/medium. I'm tempted to try a bigger size thinking that, at night sometimes, the briefs may get a little snug. ??
In brief (hahahaha!), nothing surprises me anymore. Sometimes, I go in to get her out of bed in the morning, and she's laying there completely naked. Lordy! A person could go blind! ;)
Now on to a possible solution: how about PJ's with feet? Where there's a will? There's a way. ;)
Good luck!
If you sew suspenders on and have them meet up in the mid back, she will not be able to get to them and therefore will not be able to remove the depends.