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She has terminal living cancer and has second immunotherapy session next week but she has declined a lot in the past 2 months.


I'm peeved because I was there for like 3 hours today and no one told me. They saw me walking to her room and said oh her room changed (this would be her 3rd room in the past 3 weeks). I passed by so many nurses, including the nursing supervisor. I had my mask off eating lunch with her when a NP came in. Nothing was said to me about Covid. A nurse said something to my sister a few hours later when she was about to wheel her out of the room. They said we can still visit but I don't know if I should or just take a break for a few days? Ugh!!

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Your mom is in SNH, so she is being taken care of by the staff. If the staff can be in the same room and be in contact with your mother, then why can't you? You can wear mask, shield, glove, extra clothes, etc. to protect yourself.

I do agree that the staff should have warned you when you visited today.
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I think I would buy a pack of rapid tests & do for 5 days. If I became pos or had symptoms I would not go so as to avoid the spread.

If neg & no symptoms I would go but wear the PPE (N95 mask, gloves, faceshield, gown).
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I would be very angry that there was no notification.
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Perhaps they found she was positive after you were there. They shouldn't rolling her through the halls over and over if they'd already diagnosed her.

I'd take a break from visiting for a few days. Can she talk on the phone?
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My in laws had covid unbeknownst to them and us around the time of mils birthday in June. Brothers wife and brother also got it. We were there for two hours next to their bed.

SO reported the exposure to his work as it’s a senior facility. They paid for the tests but otherwise he had to go to work. Since then, more seniors have gotten it.

I would say that maybe for a couple days have your visits on the veranda. The weather is good.
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My LO was infected on a Friday by a CNA who was not diagnosed until the following Sunday. I was notified the following Tuesday, when she tested positive.

That all occurred in March 2020. We were in a COVID hot spot and soon after, they locked down. I was “allowed” to enter because she was on hospice, but since she tested positive for a couple months after her symptoms cleared, it was recommended that I not enter because I too was in a vulnerable group.

I became infected myself in Jan. 2021, because in spite of my vulnerable status, I was unable to secure vaccination. After I was virus free I was able to socialize with her in her MC room.

For yourself, you must find out what the status of the virus is in your area. We have been a hotspot for TWO YEARS.

It is a terrible curse to be caught this way. I understand your concern.
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In our situation, we aren't allowed to visit dad in memory care if anyone who lives there has COVID. It doesn't matter that we are vaccinated and wear masks or that he has his own room - no roommates. It's common practice to quarantine everyone from what I hear from my friends whose parents live in assisted living, memory care or skilled nursing facilities.

I think there are exceptions for compassionate care though - and a terminal condition would qualify for that. If it were me, I would wear an N95 mask and arrange a brief visit in a location where there's airflow, e.g., outside on a patio. That's assuming your mom's condition permits that. The hardest thing for us is not being able to see with our own eyes how dad is doing when the facility is under quarantine. Best wishes to you and your family.
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I started symptoms on a Sat my DH day earlier. That Monday we tested positive. CDC guidelines say quarantine for 5 days mask for 5 days. Ours was like a headcold.

I agree, stay home a couple of days. We started out with an itchy sore throat that went into a head cold thing. Husband ran a fever, I didn't. We were tired.
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