Mom has severe dementia. I haven't been able to get a good night's sleep. She is also delusional. Last week she suddenly was unable to stand or walk. She is now in the hospital and has been given a thorough physical and psyciatric evaluation. They are working on adjusting her meds so we can both sleep. All of the sleeping pills and calming meds have not worked in the past. She is up all night!
The doctor and I agreed to put her in rehab for physical therapy. He believes she is strong and will walk again. I explained all of this to her and she agreed. She will be transfered any day soon. Now she is complaining that she wants to go home. I can't handle her if she can't stand up and walk.
I work full-time and I have a HHA that stays with her while I'm at work. Any ideas on how I can handle this?
My mom is living with me and she has dementia. I know exactly what it is like. I believe that she is in the early stages, but she is getting worse. Her doctors give her lorazapam twice a day, and she sleeps very well at night and takes naps during the day. I hope this helps
It's an excellent rehab center but I don't know why they have to make things difficult.
Don't take anyone's word for it, call Medicare or CHAMPVA yourself. They were extremely helpful.
physical or emotional resources to
care for Mom on my own" . when my
mom is in the hospital I always remind my self that I don't have to take delivery until there is adequate at home or at facility care in place.
I have seen a daughter have to stand up for herself and say "She is not going home with me." The hospital, etc. then has to come up with a solution.
BTW dementia patients often talk about 'going home'. For my Mom (and many others) the home they are referring to is the one they grew up in.
Talk to social worker about the funding and how Medicare can pay for longer if she isn't ready after 20 days.
It might be time to start researching care facilities that can take her if you can't any longer with your home situation. Depending on her needs and income, there might be group home, or memory care, VA, etc. I don't know about the gifting, but you can reach out to ricipients to see if they can return some of the funds.
IMO anyone who is gifted the money should place in a savings account for 5 yrs earmarked for caregiving expenses if needed prior to 5 yr look back period for the very reason you state. This technically should still be regarded as part of the estate to use for medical care if the person needs it during the look back period.