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@ sunflo2 Thank you so much. I would have already done something if it was my mother. My husband lost a grandmother due to the state taking over her and putting her in a nursing home until she passed away. And he thinks that if he does anything they will do the same for his mother and I can NOT convince him any different. I just got a phone calling say that she pulled her sister hair while she was giving her a ride yesterday. I knew she was going to get physically abusive. Something has to be done soon....it is only going to get worse.
Make an appt with her doctor or a doctor who specializes in geriatric care. Document your observations and send to him ahead of the appt so he is prepared. When you make the appt tell them to schedule for full physical work up and mental health/dementia evaluation. Have the do a urinary test because a UTI can cause weird delusions and paranoia symptoms.
Attend the appt with her.
Sounds like could be dementia, but only the doctor can diagnose and may ask for neurological work up as well. But you need peace of mind to know what you are dealing with so you and your family can be prepared for next steps and any help with care she may require. Don't panic, there are many resources to help you once you know what you are dealing with.
It sounds like you are being very reassuring and keep that up. But be forewarned you can't always reason with the loved one. Their percieved reality with dementia can be very hard wired and impossible to change. My mom has a few '"loops" she gets stuck on and I can't change her mind no matter what. It repeats at every conversation. I simply move on to to the next topic anymore to alleviate my frustration vs trying to set her straight. I don't want her to get more agitated or confused.
She started this about 6-9 months ago. She thinks a woman names Missy and a man named Jimmy are going to kill her. She has been acting strange lately for instance, she laid in the bed all day just stared @ the ceiling and didnt do anything but lay there and @ 2am wanted to come in the room with my husband and I. She said she was scared. The room she was sleeping in is in the next room beside us. She will go from our house to her daughters and walk to beat that. (which is quite a ways) She takes taxi cabs and dont/wont have the money to pay for them. She also called us the other day and said my husbands father (which my husband has never ever seen) was on his way to kill him, for us to watch out that he was on his way. She had it in her head that she was going to Ohio to get her grandmothers house (which has been torn down for years) for her to live in. I dont know what to do, my husband doesnt want to lock her up but something has to be done before something bad happens. I live in a very bad part of town and she will just show up here @ 2am in the morning. We have tried to tell her that there isnt no Missy nor Jimmy and she insists that there is. She continuously shakes and seems very nervous. I really dont know what to do being the in law and all so could someone please let me know if this could be a sign of dementia or not. Thanks for your time and listening.
My Grandma populated the house with a whole soap-opera-full of characters! As things progressed they became more real and she started having conversations with them (!). Anyhow, no official diagnosis, but they all disappeared when she moved & had to get up, eat meals with other people, watch TV and no longer lay in bed all day staring at the ceiling (no TV, no radio...no nuthin). Also mild anti-depressants. So. Depression, sensory deprivation, take your pick. All gone now apparently. She still seems to have some mild memory problems, but nothing that has been officially diagnosed as dementia or causes problems.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Attend the appt with her.
Sounds like could be dementia, but only the doctor can diagnose and may ask for neurological work up as well. But you need peace of mind to know what you are dealing with so you and your family can be prepared for next steps and any help with care she may require. Don't panic, there are many resources to help you once you know what you are dealing with.
It sounds like you are being very reassuring and keep that up. But be forewarned you can't always reason with the loved one. Their percieved reality with dementia can be very hard wired and impossible to change. My mom has a few '"loops" she gets stuck on and I can't change her mind no matter what. It repeats at every conversation. I simply move on to to the next topic anymore to alleviate my frustration vs trying to set her straight. I don't want her to get more agitated or confused.
Good luck.
Anyhow, no official diagnosis, but they all disappeared when she moved & had to get up, eat meals with other people, watch TV and no longer lay in bed all day staring at the ceiling (no TV, no radio...no nuthin). Also mild anti-depressants.
So. Depression, sensory deprivation, take your pick. All gone now apparently. She still seems to have some mild memory problems, but nothing that has been officially diagnosed as dementia or causes problems.
When did this start?
How is her memory?
Does she have other new behaviors or beliefs?