Looking for suggestions/ input to make transition easier. Mom is in late mid to advanced dementia, has been in memory care for a year. Place has new owners and has gone downhill terribly. All good staff have left. Brought concerns to management several times with little to no improvement( we are self pay and always pay on time) . Have found a wonderful small facility nearby and arranged to move her there, just not sure how traumatic this will be or any ways to make it easier. Staff at new facility is wonderful and assure me they can handle it. Just looking for advice if anyone has done this with their LO.
long time in her old place. The room is immaculate without the constant urine stench and bed is made with clean fresh sheets. She is moved to comfy recliner several times during the day and not left in a wheelchair for 18 hours. Today, she was sitting on the screen porch enjoying the beautiful day with several residents and staff. I know I did the right thing even if she doesn’t understand.
Even though your mom has dementia, you can give yourself permission to not take the abuse.
You can make the visit short, and tell your mom that you won’t be talked to like that and will see her another day.
You must take care of your own sanity.
You matter, too!
My mom would ask what I had done to her to leave her there, but then the next day would say she had been thinking to do the same thing for herself. Back and forth, back and forth, but she never called me names or wished me to die. So sorry you have to hear that. But then maybe you don't have to. Don't visit for a while.
You made the right decision. This new facility sounds wonderful. Trust your judgement.
If you have found another place you feel confident about, move her!
My feelings are, I am the one who has to deal with these facilities. Yes, there may be some decline but Mom will be in a better place and you will not be worrying about her as u would in the old one.
she also set up a small table near her front door, so she would know that was her room. If they do not allow thst, maybe decorate the door with something she likes.
Do take Time and tour the place with her. Have lunch with her and see if you can get her to meet some people..
I should have read your profile.
good morning!
1) Old room has a bad leak so she has to stay in a new room . She probably won’t even think to ask when she is going back to her old room .
2) She is going to a new restaurant and bring her there at lunchtime . This will work if you don’t think she will notice her new room is different.
She didn't quite understand what had happened but after the 1st day she was fine, forgot that she had moved.
I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Good Luck!