My MIL is 92 with dementia will be moving to a different AL facility in May due to various circumstances. My husband and I feel this is in her best interest and will be beneficial in the long run. Of course we have not discussed any of this with her since she will get very upset and angry, mostly with me. We have a move-in date at the new facility and I will need to give a 30 day notice at her current facility. I will not be able to pack while she is in her current apartment so will need to bring her home (could be a disaster) or find some kind of respite care.
So that's the long story...When and how do we tell her she is moving. I know her response will be "NO, I AM NOT GOING". I find myself waking up in the middle of the night stressing about this. Please advise me.
That does sound like your asking for a disaster taking her back home and then moving her to a new assisted living. That will be a real strain on her dementia.
Did she go to that ALF willingly or did you have to get guardianship to move her against her will?
Sorry that I'm not more help, but probably others will visit here and have much more to say that is helpful.
Take care and good luck!
Although you don't mention the reason for the move, on the day before you move her, visit and mention you found a great place --- close to you; or beautiful gardens; or nice people and great food, or whatever will appeal to her. Good luck