Hi, it's been a while that I used to post issues here... that since my mom was scammed by organized groups a few years ago, I had to immediately assume responsibility of all her endeavors. Still to this day I don't know if my mom was physically threatened and hit or just verbally threatened.
She won't tell anyone in authority much less me. Well, years have passed and because she began to be forgetful of things, I took her to see neurologist. An MRI of her head depicted early stages of Alzheimers. I'm her only sibling by the way so the neurologist recommended for her to move to a senior facility, and of course my mom said definitely not. Anyway, I work and live far away from her. have a good job and I'm also part of a union here. So to be near my mom with her life, I thought I moved back to texas where she is living. Now my union rep here told me that I would not be making the income that I have here at all in Texas, plus the union there is very weak, given that Texas is a right to work state. There's no one to care for my mom where she lives. But if I move there with her of course my finances wouldn't be near at what I enjoy now, but then I wouldn't be paying rent either. Would be living at her place. On the flip side of this living arrangement, since she lives in a condo community, she has to pay maintenance fees every month which I pay anyway. Now, I will look to the state to see if there are any assistance programs my mom can qualify for there, as I already have her signed up with Texas dept. of aging and disability services. Any suggestions as to what I should do? I would welcome your suggestions.It's sad to not know if what these scammers did to my mom a while back. If it was physical well I imagine that she succumb to this slow disease maybe because of what they did to her. Please give me suggestions.Thank you.
Best of luck!
I moved in with my Mom after my Dad died and we lived together for 9 years before she had to go to the nursing home. I was constantly "On Duty" and every time I wanted to do something, I had to consider how it would affect my Mom and whether my Mom could be alone while I am attended an event or went out of town for some reason.
You need to keep working to build up your retirement funds. And if you are too young for Medicare, you might need to have an income in order to qualify for the ACA Health Insurance--it depends on the state.
In my situation, it wasn't the physical care that was so stressful, it was the mental and emotional interaction with my Mom that was so stressful and having to be two people at the same time (a daughter who did what her Mom wanted AND an adult child who did what needed to be done to take care of her Mom).
Living with your Mom will NOT be easy. And no matter how many plans you make, living with your Mom will never go exactly as you have it planned. Good Luck.
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