As you know I had a mini stroke a week ago since then been battling the health system to get mum respite so I could take a break and look after me?
They offered her 2wks TWO WHOLE WEEKS of course she refused and refuses to go I am drained and can see me walking away. My brother was there and said if she doesn't want to go then its her house (selfish p...k). Think I'm done and may have to leave my mum and family to cope she says she is never going to respite again and my brother who NEVER look after her is there throwing his weight around offering me no support as usual. If mum refuses respite maybe I should just trying so hard and concentrate on walking away. Family don't care I've had a stroke and as its her house etc............she went really mad and told me to leave her alone and stop interfering in her life said she was taking me out of her will ASAP.
Yep heres the thanks you get for caring for a bitter unhappy woman for 4 yrs 24/7
any advice the nurse came to try and talk to her and was told to fck off?
HELP!
If you continue to put up with this, it will continue to happen.
Youre so right JB it is a joy when you have the house to yourself and not having to worry or watch them wasting away watching TV all day.
Its not easy giving up cigs its been very tough aswell as having to stick to a very strict low cholesterol diet OUCH! And yes JB youre right I have the odd glass of red wine now so unfair when all you want to do is drink the whole damn bottle!!!
In fact the best thing to do is drink a glass of red wine with dark chocolate only about two squares though.
im eating nothing and have lost 7lbs just fish and veg and nuts I have a STRESS TEST on Monday where they put you on a treadmill boy am I dreading that. Have been very dizzy all week as my body is getting used to the ASPIRIN the doctor said I would be on it for life which I am always a bit dubious about I must ask Ferris what she thinks I do not like the fact of taking meds for life?
My mum has been on so many meds for the past 30yrs and I can see what its done to her but then again she had no choice as her diet and lifestyle were just awful.
Maybe having the mini stroke was the best thing that could've happened to me as I couldn't go on with smoking and eating the crappy comfort food that I was I wasn't even eating I was grazing on chips and chocs and the odd proper meal? then mum I always make sure she eats a well balanced meal? yep go figure why we take so good care of them and total disregard for our own health? I don't have a problem with healthy food as im quite a good cook and can make anything tasty its the cigs I miss they were my best friend funny isn't it I can look at a chesseburger and go UGH stroke but I miss smoking? Such an awful addiction they say its harder to give up smoking than heroine?
Anyway today is my dads anniversary hard to believe its 2 months, miss him so much and still go to the phone to ring him! I know hes around me and can feel him and I know hes helping me through this nightmare!
hugs to all lifes a big piece of KAK sometimes!
And JB my music guy never rang(sniff) but its not the right time he will ring when im smokefree and beautiful ( he actually didn't smoke)
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im fine trust me as long as I can escape a couple of nights a week and let my bro take over ill be fine AND wreck his head in the meantime! Win win!!
You see I have a beautiful little cat who adores me and even this week he was all out of sorts as I wasn't there much my bro dosnt like animals although he would never harm him BUT I need to go in everyday and see hes alright hes been my only comfort since all this shit in my life happened.
Sorry CM but am going to have to pee my pants laughing at your suggestion what a great place to go for respite knowing me id probably end up helping out and changing their depends!!! LOL
I will continue to pop in and out during the day but have the peace of mind to know I can piss off at night and do what ever I want. Just a shame I cant get drunk!
the stroke didn't cause any damage but its a huge warning that the next one may not be so pleasant.
Anyway ive stopped smoking and am gorging on blueberries,oranges,nuts,fish anything that reduces your cholesterol its at 7.2 I need to get it down to at least 6 or lower I refuse to take statins I think they mess up your mind later on and now there is a lot of research to suggest this. taking meds for life is not an option for me id rather live a healthy life and starve than take those.
I wouldn't be afraid of the aspirin. It is from the bark of a species of willow tree. I think it grows in South America -- I would have to check the range. The natives used to chew the bark of the tree and knew of its good properties before scientists separated the wonder drug. In small doses the COX-2 inhibitor effect is minimal, so not harmful to the stomach. The risk of the blood being too thin is also slim. I take a low-dose Bayer aspirin each day as part of my health program. I figured if the natives chewed the bark, then so can I. I feel good about low-dose aspirin for any adult, particularly those past 40. (Not that we are, of course. Everyone knows we're only 39.)
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