She doesn’t care or have interest in anything. She wants to die. I’m at a loss as to what to say to her. She had a slight heart attack this week and they were unable to put in stents. So she is even more nasty. My other brother lives 3-hours away.
She will not take any meds for her mood or anxiety and repeatedly says I don't care. I’m at a loss.
She more than likely should be in one already anyway with her not wanting to take her medications and her health issues, but if you nor any other family member is her POA, there isn't much you can do at this point, but wait for the next "event" to happen(and it will)and then tell the hospital that she is an unsafe discharge and cannot be living by herself anymore, and the hospital social worker will have to find the appropriate facility for her.
Or, hospice?
Does she have a PoA?
So, what's your choice mom? Stay home with caregivers and antidepressants to try and enjoy the rest of your days to the best of your ability? Or go into a nursing home or AL with hospice to keep you comfortable until it's time to die?
I would tell her that losing further caregivers will mean that she is likely going to have to go into in-facility care, which isn't really very nice.
I am very sorry she is choosing to attempt to prolong her life with stents. I as a retired RN would never make that choice, and I worked cardiology. I think it is too bad, but it is her own personal decision and we all have a right to that.
You won't change her mood.
You are not responsible for the happiness of your parent.
You didn't cause this and can't fix this.