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Obviously you can not be there 24/7. Tell her what you are willing to do. Tell her you are too old, too tired, too stressed, etc. to comply with her unreasonable demand. That you love her and wish you had a clone that could help more but you have to take care of yourself and your health too. Any reasonable person would understand that.
If you have to, fib. Make up some ailment. How about a good case is diarrhea??? LOL. That'll give you a couple days off.
You should get medical information from her doctors (and it’s essential that she signs a HIPPA to allow you), to give you the best possible idea of how this will progress. Then you can make a plan for that length of time, to give what you can to your daughter and to keep your own life viable. You can discuss it with your daughter, and come back to the plan each time she has a relapse. You simply can’t abandon all your responsibilities every time she feels scared.
Has hospice services been called in for her yet? If not, you may both want to look into their services so your dear daughter can get anxiety meds to help keep her calm and as relaxed as humanly possible.
I'm so sorry that both of you are dealing with such a situation and pray that God grants you the serenity to cope with all that lies ahead.
See if the hospital provides comfort care. You just have to explain that at 76 (I am almost 73) that you are just too overwhelmed to be able to sit with her 24/7. She needs to realize that ur 76 and you need a good night sleep to deal with what happens daily. And hospitals do not make it comfortable for people to be able to stay for long periods of time.
Be empathetic, though. Being in the hospital is terrifying for some people.