He states he just took one but it would be a week. Or he refuses to believe he has an odor. He has a small problem with incontinence. My mom and I are taking care of him in his home recently. He was staying with his youngest daughter and her husband. They would withhold certain privileges to try to get him to bathe. He has never been like this before. Very proud and even prominent man. We have never been caretakers before. He is not argumentative and pretty easygoing. He would get mad however about the hygiene issue and take off walking stating he was going home. He has been picked up several times and brought back to my Aunt's. He cannot live alone now due to his forgetfulness.
Please how do we get this man to take a bath or change his clothes?
There is the fear of slipping and falling. Is the shower safe for him? Does he have to step into the tub/shower or does he have a walk in shower? Even a walk in there is the fear of slipping. Get a walker from a resale shop and place it in the shower so he has something to hold onto. Get a shower chair that he can sit on and have more stability.
then there is the noise in the shower.
as a Physical Therapist told me the head and torso are vulnerable spots and that is just where the water hits. Try a hand held shower so he can control where the water goes.
As far as changing clothes I had the same "problem" with my Husband. Luckily he would change to pj's at night and fold up his clothes and put them by his chair. When he went to bed I would pick up the soiled ones and replace them with clean, when he took off the pj's in the am and hang them on the bathroom door I would do the same, grab the soiled ones and replace with clean. I never said anything or made a big deal of it.
If there is a possibility of him wandering off there are devices that you can attach that will track where he is.
pick a man who is pretty much no nonsense....just come in and do it.
my Dad was pretty confused about most things the final couple years...but, an order from a commanding officer always did the trick.
for some reason the memories of serving in the Navy really were the very last to go.
Please get your grandfather to the doctor right away, okay? Getting him to bathe is one of the lesser issues you're facing right now. If you'd like more information about dementia & Alzheimer's in general, and tips on what to do and not do, Google the topic and lots of info will come up. Here is an example on how to encourage a dementia sufferer to bathe:
7 tips to get someone with Alzheimer's to take a bath
Establish a daily routine. ...
Make the bathroom warm and comfortable. ...
Use positive reinforcement and don't argue. ...
Say “we” not “you” ...
Use a hand-held shower head to reduce fear. ...
Make sure there are no surprises or guesswork needed. ...
Use extra towels for comfort and warmth.
Here is another link for you to read for helpful tips dealing with Alzheimer's/dementia:
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/alzheimers-dementia-aging/tips-for-alzheimers-caregivers.htm
Best of luck!