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What is "insist in a care"? If Alzheimer's and dementia is involved, and your DH has POA, he can override stepdads wishes and have him placed in managed care if necessary.
If your stepdad has any dementia diagnosis that makes him "incompetent legally" (look that one up) under the law................. AND If you husband or you are the POA for stepdad..................... then You can place your stepdad in care.
However, it isn't sounding as though that is the case. If your stepdad is in need of more care, and is depending on you too much, do know that you are "enabling" his bad choice not to get into a facility by helping him with shopping, cooking, cleaning, transportation and so on.
Can you tell us a bit more about the situation? Does your stepdad live alone now? Does he use you for his support in the things mentioned above? Do you feel he is no longer competent in such things as bill-paying, cleanliness, safety? Doe he wander and is he forgetful?
You asked us "How to convince him" that he needs care. The sad truth is that (I am 82 and KNOW his) you really cannot convince someone of ANYTHING. And we elders get less malliable, less able to adapt, less willing to listen as we age. We get stubborn and determined to do it our own way, and we see any "advice" as "interference" and indeed at times we see it as a threat which means just ONE MORE LOSS coming at us.
I hope you will give us a bit more information. I think it would result in a bit better answer. I wish you and stepdad good luck.
If he has Alz/dementia as you have chosen as a category , you can not convince him of anything . Reason has gone out the window for him .
Like already said , depending on his current situation maybe adult daycare . Or if he’s living alone unsafe ( with dementia ) or living with you is not working out as he refuses in home care then placement in Long Term care may be needed at some point soon .
You don't. You now must just wait for an incident to happen(and don't worry it will)to force his hand into either getting placed in the appropriate facility or hiring with his own money in-home help.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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If you husband or you are the POA for stepdad.....................
then
You can place your stepdad in care.
However, it isn't sounding as though that is the case.
If your stepdad is in need of more care, and is depending on you too much, do know that you are "enabling" his bad choice not to get into a facility by helping him with shopping, cooking, cleaning, transportation and so on.
Can you tell us a bit more about the situation?
Does your stepdad live alone now?
Does he use you for his support in the things mentioned above?
Do you feel he is no longer competent in such things as bill-paying, cleanliness, safety?
Doe he wander and is he forgetful?
You asked us "How to convince him" that he needs care.
The sad truth is that (I am 82 and KNOW his) you really cannot convince someone of ANYTHING. And we elders get less malliable, less able to adapt, less willing to listen as we age. We get stubborn and determined to do it our own way, and we see any "advice" as "interference" and indeed at times we see it as a threat which means just ONE MORE LOSS coming at us.
I hope you will give us a bit more information.
I think it would result in a bit better answer.
I wish you and stepdad good luck.
Like already said , depending on his current situation maybe adult daycare .
Or if he’s living alone unsafe ( with dementia ) or living with you is not working out as he refuses in home care then placement in Long Term care may be needed at some point soon .
You now must just wait for an incident to happen(and don't worry it will)to force his hand into either getting placed in the appropriate facility or hiring with his own money in-home help.