I see her 3-4 times a week and when I’m there she doesn’t interact with the rest of the community. I would like to bring her over to my house for at least Christmas Eve but I know she will want to stay and it breaks my heart to take her back.
should I just move Christmas Eve to the facility and stay longer?
Just try to create a nice atmosphere for yourselves in mom's new home rather than dwell on heartbreaks and the rest of the negativity that's involved with dementia. Taking her to your house you KNOW will wind up to be a big mistake, so change your strategy and wind up enjoying the day instead. It CAN be done. Make it happen.
Best of luck.
Bring Christmas to her, because she likely doesn't remember your house and will be afraid and confused by new surroundings. Don't count on her wanting to stay, because she'll likely have exactly the opposite reaction.
Even though Dad was just at the start of his dementia, I never had him back to my house because we would have needed to drive by where he and my late Mom had lived in the same subdivision where I lived. I thought that would bring up sad memories. I couldn't picture Dad sitting on my sofa without my Mom.
The senior facility would celebrate holidays and have a nice buffet set up for everyone to enjoy. The residents were introducing their children, you could see how proud they were. That worked perfectly for us :)
Moving Christmas Eve is a lovely idea, and it truly will be better and kinder for you both.