Mom has lived with my husband and me for 1 1/2 years. She is independent walking with a walker and takes herself to the bathroom and dresses herself. She wears disposable underwear and wets in them every night. I hate it that I can't convince her to shower and put on clean clothes once a week, but she becomes very irate when I bring it up. Her hair needs washing so bad, but she won't let me try to help her with her personal hygiene.
Before my LO went into AL, I insisted that she bathe before we left the house. She would always say that she had already bathed, but, it was not true, so, I would just run the sink with warm water, lather the wash clothe and hand it to her, all the while talking about good times and our plans for later that day. I I just wouldn't let her refuse. But, that might not work with everyone. I never did get her in the shower, though. She declined and had to go to AL.
The wipes are good. Nuke them just a bit to get the chill off or she will fight you on that too.
Can you wash her hair in the sink?