She says she also leaks urine, so wears pads instead. I suggested wearing both and she said "That's ridiculous! I won't do it." Am I wrong? Can they not be worn together? She makes me so mad, because NOTHING I suggest or bring her ever works for her....
Find food that will help bind her. Cheese and bananas are two.
No, you are not wrong. She should be wearing depends. You can use a pad inside them but someone suggested cutting the ends off. Pads have a plastic guard in the bottom.
You also need to contact her doctor to determine the cause of the diarrhea. This potentially very important for you and any other family members living in the house. C.Dif is contagious and difficult to treat. (If that is what is causing the problem)
Constant diarrhea can also be a problem causing dehydration and the inability to absorb nutrients from the food she is eating.
It can also lead to UTI if she is not cleaning herself well enough.
A pad or absorbent liner can be worn with an incontinent product as long as it does not have a waterproof backing on it. If it does it will not allow the incontinent product to properly absorb excess fluid.
Be careful about what she eats. Joanne has suggested that cheese is binding, it may well be for some, but for those of us with lactose intolerance it has the opposite effect.
If Mum is with you full time, do a food diary for a week to see if you can determine what her triggers are. Keep in mind that foods that she has eaten for years may no longer be digested properly. I love sauerkraut, but as of 2 years ago I can no longer eat it.
As far as I can tell from the opinions of previously reluctant users, pull-ups are a great deal more comfortable and less conspicuous than people have feared before they've tried them. What samples have you brought for your mother to try?
The other main objection we come up against is cost, though. Is that an issue?
I would think she would not want to deal with this. If, however, she is dealing with it on her own, doing own laundry and cleanup, might as well leave it in her hands. If on the other hand you are involved in cleanup you do get input.
And yes, certainly both can be worn. And are comfortable and not bulky.
Another thing you might try is a nightly dose of citrucel. While it is advertised as for constipation, doctors often give it for both problems as it forms stool with bulk and often results in one daily bowel movement in the a.m. Do NOT substitute metamucil which ferments in the bowel differently and often increases gas, hence explosive nature of stools.
Good luck.