My mother started declining at 90. Over these past 8 years her short term memory has declined. She has lost some cognitive abilities. But she’s incredibly compliant, less moody, kinder, says thank you more often. People say she has Dementia but she’s hasn’t had the bad personality change. I sometimes think it’s just old age memory loss and cognitive loss. Anyone experienced this? She has now got 24 hr caregiving at home. They make her meals, take her out for drives, help her bath. But she can walk around on her own, still use bathroom. Can go out to restaurants. She’s very sweet! Trust me I’m not complaining, it’s just that she was negative and so narcissistic before.
Unfortunately in my case, when my Mom was in her 90's, she wasn't a happy camper. She was not aging gracefully. And in part I could understand why as she was losing her hearing and eye sight, I would turn into a bear, too.
Let's hope, Molly, that your Mom continues with this easy going change in personality. Could be with some memory loss she doesn't feel like she has the world on her shoulders.
She always says "thank you" to me and tells me how much she loves me. Naturally this makes caregiving for her easier for me.
I consider myself lucky that she's been this way.
Jenna
It is so refreshing and cheering to read your account - long may your mother continue to enjoy life, and long may you and her family enjoy this new mellow version of her.
maw was always very kind and considerate and as she developed Alzheimer's..she continued to be the same.. Not all people have that experience.. So I'm really encouraged to read all the good experiences.
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