I am collapsed in bed now 10 days... it is my physical self that cannot move... how do I recoup my strength to deal with the chaos and responsibilities of unwinding her estate all alone when i can't summon the ability to even eat, reorganize, cope. I have never had any difficulty EVER with running at top speed... But have had zero regular sleep or rest for the past 9 interminable months and little before... and the last 18 months also had to cope with 24/7 rocket fibromyalgia pain and fatigue from the unremitting stress of these past last most difficult 3 years My dear mom was 91. I am a vital 66 -- or was -- but i don't "get" this exhaustion ... this let down ... this inability to move...
I'm like this even after a traumatic experience.
It may have something to do with adrenal glands. It's like when your going through something horrible you are getting through life with your adrenaline, then I believe it just bottoms out and takes time to build back up, that added with depression, is probably what your experiencing.
Be patient with your body, and mind. Give it to me but not to much time.
My deepest condolences of your mom. 🙏😞
This actually happens to me also. My stomach just closes shut.
Take care of yourself first. Eat something even if it's a piece of toast or soup. Sleep. Grieve and grieve more. Take baby steps. You have to take care of you, first. (Hugs). So sorry for your loss. I lost my mom and I couldn't move, either. It's hard.
As far as the estate, that is partially true. You have plenty of time. No one will jail you. Just take your time. Allow yourself this collapse into no-man's-land of nothingness compared to what you've been going through in caregiving.
Give yourself time. And my deepest condolences on your loss.
You were running at full speed for months on end. Grief takes its toll and comes out more ways than one Fibromyalgia can flair up and even more so during stressful times sometimes showing up weeks or months later. An appointment to the doctor would be a start. Don't drive if you don't feel like. Take a Lyft or Uber if you have the app.
Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
You've been running at top speed for far too long now with caring for your mom, and now that that has ended you have crashed.....and crashed hard.
I hope and pray that you'll be able to eventually get your life back on track and actually start enjoying this one life you've been given, as that is what your mom would want for you.
God bless you.