She uses a bedside commode and I’m fine with that but when she stands to use it, she loses control and pees on the floor. She’s recovering from a broken hip and says it too hard to pull pants up and down.
Go to the Salvation Army and get skirts or shift dresses for both you and your mom. Lift your skirt and show her that you're wearing a depends.
Are you there when she sits up, to stand up, to go pee? Tell her to call you when she has the urge and partner with her as her guiding instructor, gentle coach.
"Okay, mom success is in the air. Here's the game plan. Before you stand up, focus on tightening your muscles down there. Keep 'em tight, hold back the flood, stand up, keep a grip on it, sit on the comode, now, relax. Yay"!!! Praise her.
Put a depends over your clothes go through the moves, talk yourself through it and show her how it's done.
that's a tough one! we finally got my 73 year old brother to wear one! did you talk to her about it and is she understanding what you are saying? is she wearing any underwear at all bc you can buy the kind that are are underwear for leakag - they advertise on tv. this way when she stands up she would have to pull them down but any peeing will have taken place into the underwear be for hand. Hope you can get her to listen. God Bless You
I am 63 and these pull ups are more comfy than underwear and easier to getvup and down. YOU buy some to wear for yourself. Brag about how easy they are. Inquire of her friends if they wear them. Influence is about all you can do at rhis point.
All I did was take all his regular underwear away from him saying that he would get it back once the incontinence issue was resolved. Brutal yes but he was staying wet all day and refused to change clothing from the wet ones. He started developing nasty rash and UTIs. That was the only way for me. He finally got used to it. And I do not call it diapers or anything like that I just call it pull ups.
Can you put disposable incontinence pads around the commode (if they won't be a trip hazard)? Also put them under her in bed and on chairs. They are usually found in the same section as the Depends. Hopefully as she heals she will be able to start using the Depends.
My father transitioned and agreed they were more comfy than underwear. He had a horrible uti and depends were a must. We approached the transition talking about the confidence and freedom they would bring.
it would seem they would bring her the same confidence and dignity during this time of healing.
My mother is 88 and she, too, fell and broke her hip. She has zero control of her bladder so needs to wear Depends all the time. Like your mother, my mom also said it was too hard to pull up any pants so she would NEVER use the toilet except to have a BM. She now thinks it is ok to leave Depends on all day long--just so she doesn't have to change them. When my mom told me it was due to it being too difficult to pull up pants, I suggested that she just wear a "house coat"/bathrobe that has good closures on it. That has helped some but my mom still doesn't want to use the toilet even when she knows she needs to urinate since she has trained herself to rely on the Depends in lieu of a toilet.
After dealing with my Mom and her stubbornness in wearing Depends, and changing them when they get wet, I wish I had taken her to a doctor a long time ago. Several people I know have Mothers that are at the same stage as your mom and they have taken their mothers to urologists to have surgical procedures that have helped immensely with their moms' incontinence issues. I wish I had done this with my mom a long time ago. If you don't take your mom to see her physician, my prediction is that she will turn out just like my mother.
Are you there when she sits up, to stand up, to go pee? Tell her to call you when she has the urge and partner with her as her guiding instructor, gentle coach.
"Okay, mom success is in the air. Here's the game plan. Before you stand up, focus on tightening your muscles down there. Keep 'em tight, hold back the flood, stand up, keep a grip on it, sit on the comode, now, relax. Yay"!!! Praise her.
Put a depends over your clothes go through the moves, talk yourself through it and show her how it's done.
I hope you have good luck.
good luck and best wishes
Hopefully, so has the problem 😜
it would seem they would bring her the same confidence and dignity during this time of healing.
After dealing with my Mom and her stubbornness in wearing Depends, and changing them when they get wet, I wish I had taken her to a doctor a long time ago. Several people I know have Mothers that are at the same stage as your mom and they have taken their mothers to urologists to have surgical procedures that have helped immensely with their moms' incontinence issues. I wish I had done this with my mom a long time ago. If you don't take your mom to see her physician, my prediction is that she will turn out just like my mother.