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My neice is always confrontational and has kept us all estranged. I'm done I want to care for my mother w/no added drama.

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Not enough information and hope you will try again, but the POA is chosen by the person designating and there is honestly little way around that. You would have to prove incompetency to care for your mother, and this entails a court action all the way around. A visit from Adult Protective Services and documentation of living conditions is a start. If it is adjudged that the living conditions are indeed unsafe then there may be a guardian actually SOUGHT among the family members, so when you say "kept us all estranged" I am assuming there are others who feel the same and wish to help. Time for a family meeting about the best way to proceed. I would pool resources and definitely buy an hour of time with an elder law attorney on the best way to proceed. Anyone who does get in to see Mom without the neice in the room would be well to document any unsafe conditions. Hope you will keep us posted on how things go as you proceed.
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Tgranny12 Jul 2019
Absolutely thank you
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You have no authority, no, but that doesn't mean that you can't do anything. If you are concerned about your mother's living conditions, you can go to https://www.211texas.org/guided-search/ - bottom left corner, you will see the link for Aging/Disability. Click on that, and you will see Adult Protective Services in the left hand margin. Under APS, there is *another* link about home visits and assessments. Have a look at that, and see if you feel they might be able to help the whole family - especially your mother and your niece. If so, give them a call and ask for advice.

This is NOT about "reporting" your niece or accusing her of anything. It's about getting professional eyes on your mother's and your niece's difficult situation, and seeing if anything can be done to improve it.

How did your niece come to be given Medical POA, by the way? Is she closest, is she professionally qualified in some way, is there family history that led your mother to prefer her help to yours or your ?sister's ?brother's?
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Tgranny12, is it your mother who is 80 years old, your niece who has medical POA for her? - I just looked at your profile to see what information I could find.

I'm sorry if perhaps you got cut off in your prime just as you were describing the situation? Sometimes it happens when one hits the wrong button on the keyboard, and if so please try again!
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Tgranny12 Jul 2019
Yes my mother's 80 she has chronic COPD and is legally blind and my niece is Poa andonly ensures that my mother gets her doctor's appointments or hospital visits although they're put off put off put off many times I believe she only does that because they're legal documentation otherwise she could care less about my mother but my mother made her her medical power of attorney and I don't know what to do because I haven't been over my mother's in two years we keep in touch lbut I haven't been to her house cause of my niece but I went over there recently and I'm just sad and I know something has to be done if I get my mother uprooted from her home no matter what the conditions it's going to kill her if I don't it's going to kill her and I've been told I really have no authority
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I would contact an elder advocate or elder social worker. Lay out your issues, and find out what your options are, that is step one.
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