Lady is blind, diabetic type 2, needs walker or wheelchair for mobility, has afib, is incontinent and financially dependent for travel expense. What is safest and best way to travel 1200 mile round trip in very hot weather to attend family reunion that is planned outside. Need advice for both lady needing care and her 70 year old caregiver.
It's ambitious, I expect you realise? What relation are the lady and her caregiver to you?
I think you may just be looking for validation on a decision you have already made. Just tell the person it is not feasible. U don't say she has Dementia so she should understand her limitations and yours. But Dr. first. Him saying no should satisfy everyone. Others will chime in.
sorry I don't have any helpful advice. also I know at some events older people get lost in the crowd. and end up getting ignored. we take my mom out shes pretty mobile and not incontinent - but sooner or later she cant keep up with the conversation or contribute to conversation. I feel bad I do try to include her but....
I think you recognize the hazards inherent in traveling in hot weather, for anyone, let alone an older person. The answer to your question is that there is NO safe way to make this kind of trip.
I'm not clear though what you meant by your statement that she's "financially dependent for travel expense."
Instead of putting anyone through the torture inherent in traveling not only in hot weather, but with mobility and vision impairments, why can't the family or some of them visit her, or the family members can call and speak to her perhaps over a period of time to spread out the benefit of family interaction.
There are some really good answers on the similar post. I'll see if I can find it for you.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/my-daughter-is-having-an-out-of-state-wedding-grandmother-needs-247-care-is-incontinent-and-in-al-440322.htm
I now recall another post in which someone wanted to bring an older person out of state, and the issue of various places for her/him to stay was a factor. I doubt if I can find that one though; I don't remember enough of the details other than the logistics of bringing a walker, wheelchair, going back and forth from a motel or hotel to the site of the activity...those kinds of issues were addressed.