My mom has dementia and lives in memory care. Recently she met another man while at an event in the community. This man lives in the assisted living side of the community. She says he works and has his own car. As her guardian, she gave him my phone number so he can get permission to take her out on a date. He has called and left me a message, but I haven't talked to him yet. I also haven't called the facility because I'm trying to determine the best way to go about it. Today she let me know that he surprised my mom by paying for a haircut and color at the onsite salon. I thought it was very sweet, but I am also concerned with where this will all lead. My mom is a very sneaky woman and has a history of trying to escape the facilities she has been at and being hypersexual. She has already made comments about wanting to have sex with this man. Because of this, I'm not comfortable with him being able to take her out of the community to go on a date. I wouldn't mind if they communicated and spent time with each other on-site. However, can I put boundaries on where they can go? The community is fairly large and the assisted living apartments are not in the main building where she lives. I don't want to stop her from having somewhat of a life but I'm very nervous that she will try to talk him into taking her out even when it is not allowed or get into trouble. Has anyone dealt with this? Any advice on the best way to handle this situation?
I don’t trust the creepy male neighbor who’s suddenly paying for hair cut for a flirtatious woman with dementia in memory care and wants to take her somewhere to be alone or do “something that’s not allowed.”
Screams red flags everywhere.
The good news is that she seeks your permission so you can say NO. And yes, you do want to stop risky or unhealthy forms of entertainment, even if it disappoints or limits mom. I’d be on the phone with management in a New York minute.
Leaving it alone. There is no contest of who's opinions are right!
I wonder if they forgot what website they posted the question on, or forgot about the question altogether, no longer interested or simply busy.
Even more puzzling to me are the very old questions that are routinely answered.