Need to move mom, mom is with me most of the time in another state! She is with a health plan that only allows ER services out of state! HELP!!!! Brother hold all legal paper but tells me to go ahead and make designs but I do not know where to start!
I'm reassured now: if your mother's stayed with you for more than five months at a time, you clearly will be well prepared; that's all I was wondering. It's just there are so many people - not just on the forum, but all over - who start out with wonderful intentions and then find that they've got a complete nightmare on their hands. So I'm glad to know you're not one of them!
I'm sorry you've found a major change in your mother, though. Hope things will steady up once she's settled in with you. Best of luck x
I guess we did try to project stuff onto you. We were just trying to help. The members of this website have CENTURIES of experience. Sometimes people with abusive parents think that if they move Mom into their house, she will love them and everything will be beautiful music. In our experience, that's not how it works out. Your situation sounds much better than that.
I hope the insurance problem sorts itself out. Please let us know how things work out for you. And if you need practical advice, we're here.
The "normal" open enrollment period has ended. But there are special circumstances, such as relocating into a different state, that allow special time periods. Only you know all the details, that's why I posted the link above for you. If you review that information, it may be able to direct you or help you understand more of what you need to find out.
It may be helpful to know the following:
Is your mom 65 or over (seems like she might be)?
Does she receive Social Security benefits?
Is she financially eligible for Medicaid (your state's Medicaid may pay her Medicare premium giving her a little over an extra hundred dollars per month).
OR ... you can sign her up with an HMO that you like which is available in your since it seems state, since it seems that Kaiser is closing up their facilities on the East Coast.
All of the machinations and documentation that is required to do what you need to do could benefit by your brothers assistance. I'm not trying to make trouble here, I just want to make sure you're thinking ahead. Why isn't he actively involved if he is the POA? Why is he standing back and "allowing" you to do all the dirty work, so to speak, yet giving his magnanimous approval? If you are moving her in with you, YOU should be the POA.
Just a caution, Sallie, if you have read much on this website about the caregiver NOT being the POA, it often doesn't work to have the non caregiver wielding power over the caregiver. I smell trouble ahead if you and your brother don't have a history of being in perfect alignment about your mom.
http://www.medicare.gov/sign-up-change-plans/when-can-i-join-a-health-or-drug-plan/special-circumstances/join-plan-special-circumstances.html
Good luck,
Carol