There has been a steady decline since January, both mentally & physically. We ultimately brought in a live-in for her (in her home). She recently was hospitalized and is now in rehab. Since the mental decline has been so sharp, it is obvious, she can't speak for herself. Post rehab, we expect to move her to a memory care unit in an assisted living community. I feel someone should stop by every day. My family thinks I am obsessive. Still, it seems that since she can't speak for herself, someone should be looking out for her. I appreciate any experiences and insight from other caregivers.
And you do not need to go everyday. In fact, most staff directors suggest detaching a bit so that the resident can get settled in. What is driving you is guilt, not obsession. We, as caregivers, think that we are the only ones who can care for a loved one. I have noticed that seniors seem to decline after a traumatic event. It is just the aging process and it is different for everyone. But if your Mom is safe, getting nourishment, is clean, and doing as well as anyone could in her condition, then you can go back to being the loving daughter who does everything else - and that's a LOT.
good luck
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“How often should I visit mom when she first moves into the nursing home?”
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Personally, I would rather they visit as often as they can because 1. They/We are there to give the family relief and also have nursing care. 2. Visitation stimulates the mind, body, spirit and soul. They/We are not dead yet.
Can you think of any other reason to visit often?
I can think of one reason why some cannot visit, its because of Distance.
Perhaps the above AgingCare.com Team may have some answers.
Good luck and God bless.