appointments ,etc. Father is in and out of nursing home so while he is there I visit with him,do his laundry,bring him things he likes to eat to put in his fridge.Bought him a new electric razor,split the cost of the fridge for his room. He will be going home next week and he said to me at the doctor yesterday he would like to go into assisted living {They have a home and can no longer take care of it. }he just wants to enjoy his last time he has. He is 83 years old. My mom is alone when he is in the nursing home. He came home once before and only managed to stay for about a month, then he got so weak, he had to go back.He will be coming home next week. I don't think my mom is capable of caring for him. She is 78 and has heart trouble. She listens to my sister that she doesn't want them to sell their house.I can't keep doing this on and on. I have a family also.My sister works so I do all the running around and will have to move my Dad again. I just feel torn!What should I do?
Right now your sister gets her way. Your parents keep the house and you do all of the work. Side with your dad and hopefully your sister will change her mind.
The facility we chose allows residents to take their own furniture and they have a key to their own rooms. Some facilities allow potential residents to live there 1-2 months to decide if they would like to stay. If you can muster the funds that might be a way to convince your sister also. We used a home equity loan for the first couple of months because we were not sure Mom would stay after the move.
She is actually healthier in assisted living because she takes her meds as prescribed, she eats better, she doesn't worry about bills and other household issues. I have more time and more peace of mind, but I am still a very involved caregiver. SHE does not want us to sell her house, but we must.
I hope you find a workable solution. I only have 1 brother and he, like me, is sad that we have had to make this decision but he spent 1 week with her and realized it was necessary. Just the medication management was overwhelming to him not to mention the driving issues, wandering, and forgetfulness.