My dad has been lying about his memory issues and his change in behaviors. He forgets things all the time loses time and cannot remember conversations we have had 20 minutes later. He has gotten mean and vindictive and now has his long term psych turned friend believing him that he is fine and synthetic weed caused all his issues. Now his psych/friend has released him saying he has no issues. He can go back to living on his own and take care of himself.We know this is not true all the way up to the day of his last appoint minute there was proof he is not fine. The psych/friend wouldn't listen and let my dad have his way.We have put up with so much heartache and fought to ensure my dad was being taken care of now we have no support. The psych/friend says hes fine and we need to let him live his life. We know what is going to happen as he just keeps getting worse even on the aricept. We have been left with little choice and have to let him move back on his own. On one hand I am glad the drama is over on the other I am counting the days because I know its not going to last..
I actually have my fingers crossed that your dad can do okay on his own for a while. The main thing I would worry about is if he decided to use the stove. Maybe the stove can be disabled. That would eliminate one worry.
Is your father under the care of a gerontologist? If he has dementia and no other psychological issues, it may be the best way to go. It would be easier to have all of his care done by one person who understands older people. It is hard to fool a good gerontologist.
The medications are a bit trickier. It took me over two years to finally convince my mother to let me handle them. It can be very difficult to take charge of them.