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My husband is disabled his oldest sister is his POA the other day someone knocked at our door stuck a letter in it I went and got out from the housing authority when I opened it I about went off.


A 24 notice concerning our rent no one took care of eviction procedings would start I should of never made him head of household which caused me to lose my Section 8 he now has.


He calls her I have to tell what s going on she did come like she said on yesterday morning got letter I was on needles and pins mad well way later in the morning asked hubby she would take care of it his phone ring which I feel was her had to been, later yesterday afternoon she comes.


He goes out I m looking out the window she had him sign something well after she leaves he comes in I asked him everything alright yes what were you signing he said something did not understand he told me at first check got lost in the mail then it was the housing authoritys fault I am thinking like someone said check bounced.


Now we have direct television he pays that bill and yes its been cut off he s sneaky very intimidated of her we need a television for our bedroom I have an antenna which she lied said she was going to get, she cannot be trusted not reliable I do not like people wont to fool around with bills and cannot be affording to where maybe due to her the rent get evicted.


My daughter is 26 and special needs I think our Section 8 worker said I could reapply for my Section 8 hubby would not do what was necessary for me to get it back I need to email her to be sure.


I trying to find out if the rent check did bounce if anyone knows what I can do let me know we have a new manger our 5th one here I have never seen her I saw 2 women that day letter was stuck in door not sure if one was her.


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Shyshy, if your husband doesn't want to change the arrangement, you have no power. He will need to somehow have his eyes opened. I hope you don't have any of your own funds mixed in with his, or I hope you are not joint on any credit cards or loans with him. His sister will ruin both of you financially if it is true that she is really stealing from him. I hope she isn't. He'll never get that money back when he needs it the most. You can pursue guardianship for your husband to remove her but this is a legal process and will require time and money and he may not appreciate it. You will also need to prove your husband is incapable of making decisions for himself. What is the reason he didn't make you PoA to begin with?
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5524shyshy Jan 2020
Hello Geaton the reason fear of her I waited two long years went and got payee and what he does changes it I heard something from my cousin like maybe he was begging say for her to take it back I am not sure about that.

I know how guardianship works I am my daughters and no I do not have no credit cards etc tied up with him I wont out of this all to it but I really have no one to help me because to me they are two peas in a dam pod sorry for cussing.

I m going to reapply my Section 8 check with worker first I was so upset when we went to our annual appointment back in August I was on fire came out the office crying we had a chance at a 3 bedroom house back in September last year she up there talking about the steps him and my daughter both have seizures diffirent kinds it was like one or two going up to the porch.

We never got to see the inside my oldest niece was helping me I stayed mad at him for 2 weeks did not say a word I see us never being able to move have what we wont but I cannot just move out without money and now I m going to have to look based on income which is fine.

He needs to get away from her to is there any help for me and my daughter what did I do.
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I would suggest that you and your husband attend a meeting with an Elder Law Attorney and have another family member or a paid fiduciary assigned to pay your bills.
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This has all the signs of financial abuse. I would have your husband create a new PoA naming you as his legal representative and then you and he take the original PoA documents to your husband's bank and have him open a new account with you as Power of Attorney, close the existing one so his sister can't use it any more. I hope you're not going to find an empty account. I'm hoping this is not what is going on, but it sure seems sketchy. If it turns out the sister has been misusing his money then he should definitely report the crime. Good luck and act quickly!
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5524shyshy Jan 2020
Hello Geaton like I said my husband is very intimidated of her whatever she says he believes thinks right I tried on yesterday by live chat to see if I could get someway and how say copies of bank statements.

He and I had an old account together where she was giving him $305.00 out his account I go to the banks online account and they say my sign in is wrong the bank she deals with is more closer to her house not where we live and I know you would have to go to the bank account opened at.

What makes me furious with my husband he went with me back in 2016 I had already been made his payee to Social Security then up she comes here we go she s very controlling main problem money hungry which he s sneaky to she should not be his nothing with her nasty self I cannot stand her.
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Can you change her from being POA? Could you be the primary one? It sounds as though she will bring you more problems if she is not doing an adequate job and is not reliable. I am POA for my mother and my husband and I are primary for each other but we also have our grown children listed should that be necessary. You need to be able to rely and have faith in the person with POA for your needs.
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5524shyshy Jan 2020
Hello and thank you for your answer I went and got to be his payee what she do comes gets him they give it back to her hubby is just so intimidated of her and believes everything she says wont stand and speak up to her.

I got over being where I would not say what I have to but I am not a drama type like to start stuff but you keep pushing me I l say look out its like I do something here she comes along again hubby like he is I m fed up I wish I had money tomorrow to hopefully find me and my daughter somewhere to move I stay stressed and worried.

I am going to try and look when I feel like it I have a list of places and true you should be able to trust her I sure do not and after that rent issue that check was posted to the account same day 24 hour notice concerning eviction procedures we could of moved in September she brings up the steps neighborhood bad neighborhood store to far away him and my daughter both have seizures diffirent kinds daughter came in from day support with them today she s now sleep I m so tired.

I stayed mad at him 16 days sure did was hard but did I got to reapply for my Section 8 all to it we are never to me going to get to move nothing his fear of her thank you again.
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