I am in charge of my mother in-law (my husband and I have POA). All 3 siblings have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING or very very little to do with their mother. It's a crazy dysfunctional family and I have some concerns that one of them could accuse us of not updating them about finances and health. Quite honestly, I have absolutely had it with each and every one of them, am burned out, and I have zero desire to even try to update them. They never ask and seem not to care at all when I have informed them of health issues etc. Has anyone else failed or refused to do this had this come back and bite them ? P.S. I manage this from 3 hours away and the 3 of them live in the same town as her. It's beyond pathetic.
This is another example of why everyone reading this should hire an attorney who knows and understands the client and their family members, when preparing to sign their POA. Form documents simply don’t provide the directions that are needed in many situations, such as difficult family dynamics.
In your case, you could consult an elder law attorney in your state who will review your mother-in-law’s POA, and explain the best practices for accounting for your mother-in-laws funds. If you keep good records, in a format that is easily understood, there is no reason you should be worrying about unreasonable requests from people who are not helping with care.