My 86 year old mother has Dementia and was wheelchair bound due to her legs contracting. 2months ago started screaming continually. She is on Hospice due to the fact that I was taking care of her at home after she had to leave assisted living and could use the assistance that Hospice provide. She is in mid to last stage of Alziemers. One night she started screaming and would not stop. I called the hospice nurse who arranged for her to be carried to one of their facilities. They got her there and said that she was dying and in pain. I told them that I did not think she has a bladder infection because she always screams after she urinate and has said that her stomach hurt. They started her on morphine right away and told me she had less than 7 days to live. She is now hooked on morphine and is worse that she was before.
Putting your Mom through more tests, procedures and hoping for a cure is not going to happen, and the kindest thing that you can do for her now is to make her passing as stress free and pain free as possible. You too, need to get rest whenever you can, and if you can fit in a Dr's appointment for yourself, to explain to your Dr just what you are going through, he may be able to give you a Rx for anxiety, to help you with your emotional pain. It is very sad to have to let your Mom go, but I've been there too, and you will get through this! If you have a pastor whom you can speak to, I'd recommend that, if not, I'm sure that the Hospice facility does, and they can be a great sounding board, and help you with your grieving. Remember that the Hospice folks are there to make this end stage of her life as pain-free and gentle as possible, so do rely on these folks to to their jobs well. My heart goes out to you Sweetie, I'll pray that your Mother's passing is gentle.
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