She has now got her friends involved with her behaviour. I've tried to ask her to let me know what her issue is but she never tells me,, she accused me and my sons for banging on her door, this is while we're at work, it ended up it was Christian aid and delivery. Her friends and her put grass cuttings on my patio through muck up my stairwell and spray water in my shed though the vent, I have now started videoing these antics.. Initially she told me I was paranoid until I told her I have footage. I have begged her to leave me alone, informing her of my own troubles helping my mum through cancer, this has just made matters worse. What can I do, I dread coming home now..
Why are speaking with her?
Choose your fights carefully.
{ her friends and her put grass cuttings on my patio through muck up my stairwell and spray water in my shed though the vent, I have now started videoing these antics..}
Call adult protective services, get their help.
Make a complaint with police.
Get a restraining order force her to move
Why are speaking with her............ make space ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Choose your fights carefully.
Because there are so many legal implications due to the ownership of the property, land rights, emotional distress, etc. I would see an attorney first and get their input on your options. They can perhaps intervene and mediate a resolution. Do not underestimate the situation. Perhaps, she is having mental decline and has delusions. It's difficult to say without knowing more about her.
You've already spoken to her. And got nowhere. The more you confront her or vice versa, the more it will escalate. You need to somehow defuse the situation. And do everything legally so that she cannot turn the tables against you. Don't show her any reactions. It's no fun when the person you're torturing is not screaming and crying. (I recall mom spanking us more and harder when we would cry while being spanked. We learned to take the spankings without crying because it meant less whipping strokes.)
I would have a conversation with the police, ask them to speak to her. If she blows up while they do, it'll be documented that she's an angry person. You may have to do this to create a document trail if you eventually want to get a PPO against her.
And I agree with the others; don't engage with her directly. She sounds unstable.
But keep taking videos and photos for proof.