My husband with dementia and I go to a small restaurant for lunch. Another older couple are frequently there. He is very mean and hateful to her. blaming her for, their "lousy" life, how he has to do everything and that she is worthless. All of this being said so that others can hear. At times a younger women is there and ads to his venom. How should this public abuse be handled? Granted I don't know their whole story, but something is wrong.
I'm surprised they keep going out in public. Could you ask the staff in the restaurant if they know what the deal is? If it continued, I think I might get a license plate and report it to someone anonymously.
I was in a severely abusive relationship.The abuse was emotional, verbal, physical. Even in public he would abuse me. No one EVER stepped in to help me. I could not help myself as I was stuck in the cycle of abuse. I was told that if I tried to leave or get help he would kill my family and my pets and make me watch, and then torture me to death.
It took me years to get help. Finally I called the police myself after nearly dying during one of the beatings and asked for help. I was sure I was going to die soon after for asking for help, but instead the police helped me get safe...including jailing him and enforcing the restraining order for years afterwards (he did continue to attempt to kill me, and still is, but now I KNOW I have help. I didn't before.)
PLEASE do something .... ANYTHING. Even calling the police to step in...I guarantee that if they do this in public, it's only the tip of the iceberg.
Angel