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Your mother has been spending money that the family can't afford, yes?
You have challenged her. She has reacted badly. There are new health issues for one or more members of the family which make it imperative that the budget is kept under control; and yet at the same time your mother is emotionally unprepared to accept the need for changes.
You live with your father and your mother? You have done all your life?
You are looking for allies with the skills and authority to gain your mother's agreement to a different plan. Who those allies might be depends partly on who you're already in touch with.
So: who is there? Health or social care professionals? Elder care or estate planning lawyers or specialists?
What I'm hoping is that this rough sketch will at least get you started - if only because you'll be able to correct anything I've misunderstood!
Don't give up, please come back and tell us more, and meanwhile I hope the immediate situation calmed down for you.
Ruthie, I am very sorry for the chaos you are dealing with, based on your profile. Your cry for help indicates the severity of the situation. The people on this site are from all over the world and can offer a lot of wisdom but what you need is more immediate intervention. Is there a doctor, social worker or case manager you can reach out to? I understand that’s unlikely since it is a weekend. If there is an immediate danger, please call 911. But at the very least, contact Arizona APS at (877) 767-2385. Good luck to you and your family and please come back and let us know how you’re doing.
Ruthie, I couldn't make sense of your post here or your profile info. We are not an agency, we only private individuals giving advice and suggestions and opinions to caregivers about caregiving. Sounds like you live in chaos but don't want to "separate family of 3 not an option", we don't know who the 3 are (adults? children? elderly?) please repost something that gives clear info and asks an actual question. Also, please repost in the questions section, not discussion section. Peace to you, you seem to really need it. (((hug)))
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You have challenged her. She has reacted badly. There are new health issues for one or more members of the family which make it imperative that the budget is kept under control; and yet at the same time your mother is emotionally unprepared to accept the need for changes.
You live with your father and your mother? You have done all your life?
You are looking for allies with the skills and authority to gain your mother's agreement to a different plan. Who those allies might be depends partly on who you're already in touch with.
So: who is there? Health or social care professionals? Elder care or estate planning lawyers or specialists?
What I'm hoping is that this rough sketch will at least get you started - if only because you'll be able to correct anything I've misunderstood!
Don't give up, please come back and tell us more, and meanwhile I hope the immediate situation calmed down for you.
I am very sorry for the chaos you are dealing with, based on your profile. Your cry for help indicates the severity of the situation. The people on this site are from all over the world and can offer a lot of wisdom but what you need is more immediate intervention. Is there a doctor, social worker or case manager you can reach out to? I understand that’s unlikely since it is a weekend. If there is an immediate danger, please call 911. But at the very least, contact Arizona APS at (877) 767-2385. Good luck to you and your family and please come back and let us know how you’re doing.