I do not need to go over the nitty gritty of the details. She has alz but all other vital signs are normal. Granting nothing catastrophic or cataclysmic will happen, my mom might linger on and heave her entire care to me for another 10 or more years. I have paid and still paying heavily in terms of lost income, unemployment, lost opportunity not to mention no wedding ring or even a serious boyfriend or even just the time to have a meaningful relationship and been stuck postponing my plans, my own life, my own dreams and ambitions. I worry in the next 1 to 2 years she will eat up all the resources I intend for my own daughter who will be moving soon in the next 2 years to high school. Last night i searched the internet for any medicine that might do the job. Any ideas? I just hope the meds are available in my country (I'm not in the US). If Mother Nature won't do her job on my mom, I have to do it myself. This cant go on for another 5 or 10 years. I myself turning 40 this 2011 I also must save for my own retirement and my own sanity. With mom possibly alive for the next decade, how in the world will I save for my self while sustaining me, my daughter and my mom. I have been officially unemployed for 6 months this December. Any drugs or meds to do the job? I don't have a car to do the CO2.
There are services. Look for local Alzheimer's services, and also try to get help for what may be serious depression on your part. Don't do anything you'll regret for life. Go to www.alz.org and find contacts there to help you through this. You need to reach out.
Hang on and ask for help - we're with you.
Carol
Some cannot comprehend what others go through. Just because we are cgs does not mean we share the same experience.
Some of us care for parents who were not good parents. Some of us grew up in dysfunctional homes. Some of us had wonderful parents with sweet childhood memories. We come at our task of cg from all angles. We should never, ever judge each other.
But...... I think most of us agree that "shortening a life span" or taking a life is not the answer.
I am so sorry for mhmarfil that she feels that this is the only answer.
I understand that she lives in a country that does not have the resources that the U.S. has. mhmarfil has said that she does not want our advice; our suggestions won't fit her. But I hope we can all come up with enough encouragement for her that she changes her mind. mhmarfil, stay with us and lets see if we can help you.
Mhmarfil DOES NOT live in the U.S. She does not have the resources that we do.
"You should be ashamed of yourself" for attacking someone less fortunate than you who is merely crying out for help and understanding.
Keep strong.
go find help , hugs and kisses , xoxox
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