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Mom has short term memory loss due to on set dementia. Unfortunately she is active and can communicate but is in the locked down memory care side of the facility because she talks about going home a lot and they're afraid she would walk out.
No, but you can have the help in her memory care bring her over into the assisted living side when they have something going on that she would enjoy. Or you can bring her over yourself to enjoy whatever is going on. I have seen that done over and over in the different facilities that I visit. It's a win win for everyone.
When my FIL got to the SNF, I would have described him as "not as demented as others" but things changed on a dime and the hallucinations and delusions caught us really off guard. Thankfully, they had the resources to deal with it.
I would definitely ask for a family care plan meeting - and discuss options. I wouldn't hold my breath though - if she is in memory care - its likely for a reason.
You say that she is in the locked down memory care side because she talked about going home a lot and they are afraid she would walk out. Is there more to that? I would hazard that the vast majority of people in a facility (unless it is independent living) usually lean heavily on wanting to go home.
You say that she is active and bored. Is she capable of completing her Activities of Daily Living? Or will you have to essentially "a la carte" her needs in Assisted Living? Is she a flight risk? Can she remember to take medications? Will she remember to shower or change her clothes or eat? Or will you have to pay extra for each ADL that she needs prompting or assistance with?
Are you seeing her regularly? Or is this based on phone conversations? Sometimes its easier to showtime on the phone than in person. And if you are seeing her in person, how long are those visits - because again the ability to showtime is usually pretty short but can be maintained for short visits or phone calls.
You have a lot to think about. Definitely engage the staff who work with her daily to get their thoughts.
This is something you would need to discuss with the administration at the LTC center. They are the ones that know your mom's history and her activities. Wishing you good luck. Hope you will tell us what you learned after you come back from an appointment with the administration.
My Uncle, who seemed to not be as demented as the others, on his very first escape from his MC facility fell while crossing a busy intersection. They were able to get him to the ER then back to MC. It only takes one time for it to be regrettable.
Although many seniors talk about going home when they sundown, your Mom sounds very capable of actually pulling it off -- which is worrisome.
Talk to the admins about having her be a "helper" for the activities director and see if they can safely give her other tasks in the afternoons. Or, consider meds for agitation and anxiety, which may tone down the "going home" thoughts.
NeverGrowOld007, welcome to the forum. If your Mom is in Memory Care, that means the facility felt that was the right location for her.
I remember when my own Dad was living in an Independent Living facility, the Staff found Dad trying to leave the building late in the evening as he was developing what is called "sundowning", mean his mild dementia became worse after sunset, but went back to mild in the morning. The Staff highly recommended that Dad would be safer in Memory Care. Wouldn't be surprised that could what your Mom is going through.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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I have seen that done over and over in the different facilities that I visit. It's a win win for everyone.
When my FIL got to the SNF, I would have described him as "not as demented as others" but things changed on a dime and the hallucinations and delusions caught us really off guard. Thankfully, they had the resources to deal with it.
I would definitely ask for a family care plan meeting - and discuss options. I wouldn't hold my breath though - if she is in memory care - its likely for a reason.
You say that she is in the locked down memory care side because she talked about going home a lot and they are afraid she would walk out. Is there more to that? I would hazard that the vast majority of people in a facility (unless it is independent living) usually lean heavily on wanting to go home.
You say that she is active and bored. Is she capable of completing her Activities of Daily Living? Or will you have to essentially "a la carte" her needs in Assisted Living? Is she a flight risk? Can she remember to take medications? Will she remember to shower or change her clothes or eat? Or will you have to pay extra for each ADL that she needs prompting or assistance with?
Are you seeing her regularly? Or is this based on phone conversations? Sometimes its easier to showtime on the phone than in person. And if you are seeing her in person, how long are those visits - because again the ability to showtime is usually pretty short but can be maintained for short visits or phone calls.
You have a lot to think about. Definitely engage the staff who work with her daily to get their thoughts.
Wishing you good luck. Hope you will tell us what you learned after you come back from an appointment with the administration.
She's in the same facility.
Why not give this a try?
If it doesn't work there is little lost in the trying.
Although many seniors talk about going home when they sundown, your Mom sounds very capable of actually pulling it off -- which is worrisome.
Talk to the admins about having her be a "helper" for the activities director and see if they can safely give her other tasks in the afternoons. Or, consider meds for agitation and anxiety, which may tone down the "going home" thoughts.
I remember when my own Dad was living in an Independent Living facility, the Staff found Dad trying to leave the building late in the evening as he was developing what is called "sundowning", mean his mild dementia became worse after sunset, but went back to mild in the morning. The Staff highly recommended that Dad would be safer in Memory Care. Wouldn't be surprised that could what your Mom is going through.