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Of course a sibling (adult child) should be compensated for becoming caregiver to a parent. You should not have quit your job to do it. That's a mistake that too many people make. What ends up happening in family caregiving situations is they go on for longer than expected. Or the caregiver has to be there for longer than they agreed to. Then they can't find a job when the caregiving is no longer needed. This is why getting paid for what you're doing is so important. So many of us family caregivers catch a lot of criticism from others for insisting we get paid. That we're supposed to become enslaved to our parents care needs 24/7 often, usually suffering some type of abuse from them with it. Not only are we expected to be happy to have this burden on us, but we're supposed to do it for free. If anyone gives you a hard time about getting payment tell the exactly what I tell every a$$hole who's ever had something to say to me about it.
If a married couple with a kid or kids gets divorced, or a baby-daddy/baby-mother has a kid or kids with multiple people, someone has to take care of those kids and give them a home. The parent not providing the care and home for them has to pay child support to the one who is. If the other refuses to pay it goes to court and they go to jail. Why should it be any different when an adult child has to be the caregiver and takes the responsibility for the health and safety of a parent who like a child cannot take care of or be responsible for themselves? I see no distinction between the two, except it's a lot harder to be a parent to a parent than it is to be one to your child.
Yes - I moved mom in with me and it’s been over 2.5 years (covid sort of got in the way of more rehabilitation to find where her landing spot will be and be best for her) - I was so busy that I had zero time to sell homes or meet with anyone - I had to focus on care and recovery. I am finally meeting with an elder law to draw up an agreement and figure it all out. I’m not sure if your asking for yourself or another family member but whomever cares for mom should be compensated.
YES! Get a caregiver agreement in place. You should consult with an elder law attorney. Sis will become mom's employee. Don't scoff at what the amount may be. Keep in mind that facility long going could easily cost in excess of 6 K a month if her needs are low.
I would think long and hard before giving up your job to care for your mom. Your profile says that she has Parkinson's and dementia, along with many other health issues. That is a lot, and she will only continue to get worse, and perhaps end up having to be placed in a facility anyway. Where will that leave you, but without a job? People often have grand ideas that they'll be able to care for their loved one, but once they get into the day in and day out of it all, they realize that they have bitten off way more than they can chew. I hope you know what you're getting into. Your mom realistically probably needs to placed in the appropriate facility. You can see an elder attorney and have them draw up a contract so that you can be compensated by your mom, but you'll of course have to file taxes on any income, and you'll have to keep accurate records in case mom ever needs to apply for Medicaid.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You should not have quit your job to do it. That's a mistake that too many people make. What ends up happening in family caregiving situations is they go on for longer than expected. Or the caregiver has to be there for longer than they agreed to. Then they can't find a job when the caregiving is no longer needed. This is why getting paid for what you're doing is so important.
So many of us family caregivers catch a lot of criticism from others for insisting we get paid. That we're supposed to become enslaved to our parents care needs 24/7 often, usually suffering some type of abuse from them with it. Not only are we expected to be happy to have this burden on us, but we're supposed to do it for free.
If anyone gives you a hard time about getting payment tell the exactly what I tell every a$$hole who's ever had something to say to me about it.
If a married couple with a kid or kids gets divorced, or a baby-daddy/baby-mother has a kid or kids with multiple people, someone has to take care of those kids and give them a home.
The parent not providing the care and home for them has to pay child support to the one who is. If the other refuses to pay it goes to court and they go to jail.
Why should it be any different when an adult child has to be the caregiver and takes the responsibility for the health and safety of a parent who like a child cannot take care of or be responsible for themselves? I see no distinction between the two, except it's a lot harder to be a parent to a parent than it is to be one to your child.
I agree that with all Moms health problems she should be placed in a nice LTC facility. An AL will not be able to care for.
People often have grand ideas that they'll be able to care for their loved one, but once they get into the day in and day out of it all, they realize that they have bitten off way more than they can chew. I hope you know what you're getting into.
Your mom realistically probably needs to placed in the appropriate facility.
You can see an elder attorney and have them draw up a contract so that you can be compensated by your mom, but you'll of course have to file taxes on any income, and you'll have to keep accurate records in case mom ever needs to apply for Medicaid.