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My sibling was trying to evict me from my parents home. I went and told my parent of this and he said "DONT MOVE" He didn't want his property to be sold. SO we revoked to POA "which he didn't remember giving to my sibling anyway. We went to court and the judge ruled in my favor. Stating my sibling didn't prove the new POA was now binding. Now I have gotten the police to go with me but he wont let me see my father. No phone calls, letters, etc Other family members seem to think its sad but they are no help....

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So now you go back to court and get visitation rights.
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All about the money me dear, it is happening all the time....itbrings out the b.....ds in people. We have just discovered 44k pounds unaccounted for between accts.
Virtually removed, through lies, from a will.
Go to a lawyer, and get them to write to brov and Dad. Learn from others mistakes.
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Both prior comments are right on target, unless your brother owns the property where your father is resident how can he influence your entry? In addition to the attorney, I would contact adult services, since you cannot access your father, you have no insight as to his level of care or health.While binding and correct, it takes time to go through the courts, adult services can acquire access and at least evaluate his current situation. It is analogous to someone expected of child abuse, if a shadow of doubt exists they can trump even parental rights. Knowledge of your father's well being will at least short term give you information as to his state of mind and care. If your brother is not meeting his needs then move to guardianship which really puts you in the driver's seat, but does carry great responsibility and in some states liability, again a step to discuss with the attorney. I also would suspect that as stated by the second comment that money may be at the center of your brother's behavior, has your past relationship provided you insight that he is attempting to acquire financial gain? Much of this response is based on assumptions extracted from your initial information. If you could relate: Why did the judge not support the validity of the POA held by your brother? If it was due to your fathers state of mind, then the will written when he was of sound mind prevails. Who if anyone holds medical and fiduciary POA? Who owns the property where your father resides? Is he in good health and if not does he suffer from memory issues diagnosed by a physician. How was your brother able to prevent your entry in the presence of police officers? Could you clarify, if not me others with more knowledge could be helpful if they have more information.
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If the NH relied on a invalid POA giving your brother the authority to remove your father from the NH, that's the point at which your brother crossed the line. Go back to the police with the judge's order and get them to act on that basis; and call in APS for good measure - has anybody seen your father to check on his welfare? Kidnapping sounds about right to me; but if you want more certainty, consult the lawyer who helped you on the POA matter. Don't let the grass grow! Good luck.
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Not sure kidnapping is the one that's going to get action. Questions about health conditions & treatment & are needs being met that's a social services call from where I sit.
But you have received really sound advice get a elder attorney, quickly.

Don't begin to understand the weird/nasty/behavior that I've endured, just except it as nothing you can do to change their minds, but you can make an impact on your parents safety & living conditions.
I was out of state & my sister cut off communication & refused to answer my email. I sent a registered letter that she had to sign & she received notification that I was coming to see mom & implied that authorities would be called, long story short, she "let" me see mom, but it just got weirder as time went on.
My mom died alone & I feel really bad about that but there is only so much you can do & only so much you can take responsibility for.
Good luck in your struggle, try not get down in the dirt with the siblings, your parent is proud of you, remember those things & hopefully it will help you thought this difficult time
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I know what the police said. "It is a civil matter." I had a similar circumstance with my brother living with my mother and smoking, and I got him evicted because I got an order of protection against him. Consult an family elder attorney to get this heard before an impartial judge. If your father is still competent, then he can revoke this other POA, but if his doctor has stated he is not, I'm afraid your brother holds the cards. Try and talk to him in a calm, reasonable way so as not to alienate you from your father anymore. Maybe you could set up a time schedule where you could visit your father. My prayers are with you because I had and continue to have estrangement from my siblings and mother died in 2002.
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You have the valid POA now...... When someone resorts to drastic measures,, it makes me question their motives. Actions speak in loud volume! I could see if parent's property had to be consolidated to pay for their nursing home care, but he was yanked out of the nursing home. As POA you have the authority to act in your parents best interest. Where is your parent now? How is the present care? Can you get in touch with your area office on aging to make sure the care is ok?
Does your parent have dementia or can he speak to make any decisions for himself? While your parent was in nursing home did you have regular contact with him?
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If you have POA, your brother must at the very least be guilty of fraud in misrepresenting his authority. Go back to the police. Raise Cain. Return with them to your brother's house, and insist that your father is seen either by you or by an official, accompanied by a doctor or (at a pinch) paramedic. Good luck.
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You need an elder law attorney......
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Redhed - family matters are usually civil matters unless they escalate into physical bodily harm or there is damage to property. Police don't like to interfere with family matters, because it becomes a "he said" "she said" type of argument when no one can prove what took place. Of course there is always video...so one has proof.
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