My mother has lived with my brother for about the past twelve years. He got her to give him the POA. Each month he does not take money from her directly but puts all his restaurant tabs, shopping, and trips etc on her credit card, then pays for it out of her monthly income. He charges anywhere from $1100 to $1500 per month and saves nothing for her. About a year ago we inquired about puting her in a nursing home. I was asked by the adminitrator that I would need to have 5 years of bank statements for her. When I asked my brother for them he replied, "I shred them each month." He then stopped talking about her going into a home. Do I have any legal right to go over her financial records?
If he is POA, then he is driving the bus. Just make sure that he understands that when she becomes doubly incontinent, there will be no help coming from Medicaid, or from you.
Angel
Couple weeks ago my Dad moved into Independent/Assisted Living and is happy as a clam sitting in his recliner watching the weather channel/local news and listening to his fire/EMT scanner. He just doesn't want to go to the social hour to meet people. And I am now backing off figuring he is 94 and he should do what makes his happy, not what makes me happy.