I have an appointment for a much anticipated psychological evaluation for my 89-year-old mother with possible dementia tomorrow. She is so angry with me still about taking away the car that she will not even talk to me. I need to petition for guardianship but have to get this evaluation first. It's not going to be easy because she is a retired psych nurse and thinks there's nothing wrong with her memory and will not go to the doctor. She is verbally combative so I may have to make up a large "white lie". I'm having trouble with that but for her safety (she is walking to grocery store for tobacco) and health well being, she has got to go so we can move forward.
If nothing else, check out if there is such a thing as an involuntary psychiatric evaluation process in your state ( called Baker Act in some places).
I believe in some states, you can apply for guardianship and the court will arrange the evaluation, at home. Are you working with a knowledgeable lawyer?
Finally, you need to take care of you. Consider seeing a therapist, seeing your doc for medication, whatever it takes to get you through. Let us know how it goes!!
Thank you all for your responses. Dawn
Since your mom is mobile and will figure out where you're going, I'm wondering if the neurologist can give you a single dose of Valium beforehand like going to the dentist
Have you asked the office for advice?
Maybe say the appointment is for you and you'd like her to be with you - offer an olive branch and plan lunch or pie and coffee afterwards
I have to bribe mom to do a lot of things