Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
My mother is 92 yrs old. her health is good, but her cognizance and moods seem to be slipping every day. my brother is living with her but taking care of her is getting more difficult.
freqflyer is spot on. When a person with dementia needs a care facility depends heavily on what the alternatives are. It is more about what the primary caregiver can cope with than the actual symptoms of the person with dementia. A dementia person living alone will need some other living arrangement with less serious symptoms than a person living with family members who can help with the minor symptoms and can care for the person until the symptoms get worse.
In this case, what is needed and how soon really depends on her son's ability to continue to care for her. Perhaps the time for a facility can be put off for a while by having in-home help.
You are very wise to be looking into this now. Most people would like to stay in their homes forever and most family would like to make that possible. Know that dementia is a formidable force and even with profound love and the best intentions it is not always possible to achieve this goal.
The main symptom wouldn't be how Mother is doing, the main symptom would be can the caregiver keep up with the ever rising demands.
It it good that you recognize that your brother is starting to get burnt out. When it comes to dementia, as you probably already know, it doesn't get better, it only gets worse. Please note that 40% of caregivers die while caring for their love one, those are not good odds. Would you brother be able to keep up the pace for another 2-5 years? I doubt it, not without paid caregivers coming twice a day, every day.
The symptoms vary from person to person, but they include, memory loss, confusion, incontinence, resisting baths, hostility, hallucinations, talking of things from the past as if they are current, unusual eating habits, such as only wanting sweets. They also include hiding things in unusual places, like putting the remote in the fridge and having no memory of it, being suspicious of people and thinking they are stealing from them, odd sleeping habits, like sleeping all day and up at night, falling a lot, delusions, refusal to take baths, pacing, anxiety, repeating the same thing over and over, wringing of the hands, crying for no known reason, wandering, forgetting to do common things like meal time or holidays and loss of interest in things she may have always loved. An avid movie watcher may stop watching movies or any tv at all.
Very good points made by FF and Sunny. Think about where this is leading and get prepared for assited living or skilled nursing home. It can be done at home but it will become a 24/7 job. If you haven't done so, get her affairs in order, will, medical directives, POA etc.
Right. I would make sure someone has the legal authority to act on her behalf, such as a Durable POA and Healthcare POA. It will be difficult to make arrangements for her as she progresses. Normally, those who are affected are not interested in getting outside help or going to a place to live and get care, but it may be necessary.
Dementia is not just the things I mentioned above. They also have physical problems like losing their balance, forgetting how to walk, forgetting how to eat and swallow. They lose control of bladder and bowels and eventually are bed bound,. I'm sorry to sound so graphic, but it's very challenging to find someone to care for a person round the clock with those conditions. I would plan now so you aren't trying to make plans after a crisis occurs.
In addition to the advice already given, I'll add some absolute situations: wandering the house at night and getting into trouble, leaving the home at night & wandering, gardening at night outside, turning the A/C up to greater than 95 degrees in 95+ degree weather, not taking her medication but hiding the pills instead, physically aggressive behavior. These are absolutely reasons for putting someone in assisted living.
It might be more difficult for your brother to care for her as time goes by, unless he has a wife or other female who can help him. Not all sons want to get that up close and personal in their mother's business. And by that I mean bathing, changing clothes, toileting. It's not all just doing the meals and laundry and keeping her company. As time goes on, the distribution weighs heavier and heavier on the "hands-on caregiving" side and lighter and lighter on the companionship side. All things to think about while you have the chance.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
In this case, what is needed and how soon really depends on her son's ability to continue to care for her. Perhaps the time for a facility can be put off for a while by having in-home help.
You are very wise to be looking into this now. Most people would like to stay in their homes forever and most family would like to make that possible. Know that dementia is a formidable force and even with profound love and the best intentions it is not always possible to achieve this goal.
It it good that you recognize that your brother is starting to get burnt out. When it comes to dementia, as you probably already know, it doesn't get better, it only gets worse. Please note that 40% of caregivers die while caring for their love one, those are not good odds. Would you brother be able to keep up the pace for another 2-5 years? I doubt it, not without paid caregivers coming twice a day, every day.
Dementia is not just the things I mentioned above. They also have physical problems like losing their balance, forgetting how to walk, forgetting how to eat and swallow. They lose control of bladder and bowels and eventually are bed bound,. I'm sorry to sound so graphic, but it's very challenging to find someone to care for a person round the clock with those conditions. I would plan now so you aren't trying to make plans after a crisis occurs.