My stepmother is living alone at home. We have health care aides coming in regularly because I live 3 hours away. Recently we've had some problems with inconsistency. Yes, they will send a substitute, but often at different hours. Several times this has interfered with Dr's appts. She is adamant about staying at home.
I was a caregiver for 25 years and can't event tell you how many of my clients had to be put into memory care.
I can tell you that not a single one went willingly.
Unless you can get her a live-in caregiver or two (one does the week days the other weekends so everyone gets time off) the only other safe option is facility placement.
Unless she's going to be moved in with family or family is moving in with her.
Of course she's going to be adamant about staying in her own home. Who isn't going to be when there's discussion of going into a "home"?
If one memory care won't accept her, find a different one.
My mind is boggling.. how many people that need memory care, know or remember they have memory problems, know they have lost independance, accept it & willingly leave their own home?
1%?
This makes no sense.
Who's paying for the health care aides that you hire? Her, I hope.
A person doesn’t have an estate until they’re dead.