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My mom puts on three to four pairs of depends on at a time at night after she goes to bed. She also will fold them back up and put them in her bathroom closet or her drawer. Any recommendations?

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Probably worried about leaks. Have you considered getting puppy pads - those square absorbent sheets with plastic on one side and diaper-like materials on the other. You could call them her "super-Depends" for bedtime. Maybe she'll feel more comfortable this way.
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Do not keep all the Depends in her room. We have them in connecting bedroom. Only give her a pair to go to bed. We keep a spare on the nightstand if she needs one. Our Mom thinks most times that she is changing by putting another one over the existing one. Just remember your Mom doesn’t realize what she is doing. That is your job.
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Allow a single pull-up for placement, then put a couple of the flat incontinence sheets ( made by the same company that makes the pull-ups) under her on top of what is called a "draw sheet" ( a fan folded sheet that is lying across the fitted sheet on the mattress).  Also, put a plastic cover on the mattress ( can buy these at Walmart) so that the mattress won't be ruined by leakage.  My mom uses about 4 pull-ups per day, and I have a plastic cover on the mattress which my mom is glad about because not only will it protect the mattress from leakage, but it is also a protection against bed bugs since she is in a facility.  You can also place a bedside commode next to the bed in case she isn't speedy in getting up to the bathroom.  That will protect the carpeting, or prevent wet spots/slippery spots on the flooring which will prevent falls/broken hips.
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If she is of sound mind, ask her why she uses so many. Fear of leakage or is this a dementia issue? Is she putting them back in the drawer because the outer pairs are still dry?

Bedside commode, if she can do it, would allow her to pee during the night without having to use so many. If she sleeps soundly while leaking or urinating, she may not get up to go.

You might get some incontinence pads (ones labled 'overnight') and put one of those inside the pullup to catch leakage and save on buying so many pullups. Best price on the overnight pads is Sam's, then Wmart.
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I buy the unisex ones for my husband and they work great
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judy1 Aug 2019
Sorry, they are the amazon brand
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This is similar to anyone who went through The Great Depression. They are savers - yes - even Depends because their mindset is that they may not be able to get another box/carton. My mother saved tiny slivers of soap and socks wer NEVER thrown out.
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Mom may be fearful that she will leak through if she wears only one Depends. I’m not a big fan of Depends. I don’t think they’re that absorbent so Mom may have a point. Go online and find briefs made specifically for overnight wear. I’m sure Amazon has them.

If Mom does leak through, make sure she’s not drinking a lot in the afternoon and evening, especially coffee and tea.

Limit her access to the Depends. Put out one or two and put the package where she can’t access it. If she’s putting used ones away, supervise her more carefully and then just take the used ones and throw them in the trash where she can’t get to them. Replace them with dry ones and she probably won’t even notice.
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ladyblue57 Aug 2019
Thank you so much for your help we are willing to try almost anything. My sister remembered when my father had Alzheimer he would put two sets of clothes on.
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A lot of people have given you good advice. Your mom is probably worried about leaking and making a mess on the bed. If you have special underwear that she is to use only at night, and keep the rest out of reach, maybe that would help. I have been looking high and low for years to find incontinence underwear that wouldn't leak overnight. Depends just doesn't do it (even the overnight ones). Finally, I found "Because" pullups, and they worked! Then the company made changes, and I'm back to square one. We tried "Tranquility" for the last 2 nights, and they didn't leak! I do put "Attends Booster Pads" (they look like feminine pads) inside the pants at night. I also put a protective bed pad under Mom at night. I buy the cloth, reusable ones. I think they're more comfortable. The bed pads are great because if she does leak through, you don't have to change the whole bed. They come in 3' by 3' sizes.
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Change from depends to Tena super night pads which are worn with cotton pants like the underwear you get in the hospital. They hold more. They are more comfortable. They protect her skin. We switched after mom developed serious rash from the elastic on the depends between her legs 24/7. They are $18 online from Walmart. Life changing.

As for the behavior - my mom did it too. When she was well enough to have her own room I often found soiled depends in the back of a drawer or hidden in the closet. Having been in this journey awhile my best advice is too accept it for what it is - a dirty diaper. You can’t get her to stop or understand or likely even acknowledge she is doing it. It’s just one of many challenges on your journey.

Best of luck.
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Thanks for the suggestions regarding medication. She has a doctor's appointment next week and hopefully we can get some answers/solutions/medication for her issue. Much appreciated.
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