Some asked for an update on my post…
What do you think? Should I go on the trip?
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/what-do-you-think-should-i-go-on-the-trip-488107.htm?orderby=recent&page=1
When my parents moved up near me I started a habit of calling them every day. Pretty much “Hey there how ya doing?” kind of thing. They were up here for about a month then went back to their other home in FL. Kept up the habit. Last week when everything went down regarding my original post I got ghosted by my Dad.
Today I left a message saying that I know he is upset and that I am taking it as he doesn’t want to speak with me so I will give him some space and am ready when he is ready to talk.
He texted me back saying this…
”I am not mad, just broken hearted. I don’t think this can ever be fixed so from this point on please don’t try to contact us anymore. If anything happens to your mom I will let you know. I’m sure if something happens to me she will do the same.”
Feel like I have lost my Dad before I lose my Dad.
“ I’m sorry you are upset Dad , I was doing all I can to assist in setting up PROFESSIONAL help for Mom when she gets home.
I can not be a hands on caregiver as I am not trained .
I have a family and job obligations as well , many miles away “.
Then the ball is in Dad’s court .
Maintain this boundary . You are not a child . He’s trying to make you cancel your trip . You can’t give in , then he will continue to manipulate .
I know it’s heartbreaking . Maybe your mother will accept calls at some point , despite what your father says .