They did send me an "Authorization to Disclose Personal Information to a Third Party" form to complete. Requires mother's signature. Can't get in to nursing home due to CoVid and besides she is in the late stages of dementia. Signing her name, very unlikely. Even applying an "x" probably not going to happen. I am at wits end trying to figure out what I have to do to prevent this benefit from being stopped.
Can anyone advise me how to proceed? VA has given me a 11/1/20 deadline.
Have you been to the VA website to find out how to be her designated payee or whatever the VA has that is the equivalent to being representative payee before Social Security.
I have no idea how you would proceed here other than to get a person from the VA to tell you what you need to do as the daughter of a mother who is no longer competent. I hope others have dealings with the VA. I hope their website is as good as the Social Security which describes in detail how to become representative payee. I think your Mom is going to need to have someone who can act in her stead, but it seems you do not yet have any legal means of doing that?
If so, call the Social Worker at the NH and fax her/him the form. If their getting paid is dependent upon this form, they will figure out how to get it done.
You can drop off a form at the SNF and ask the DON to have her sign it to the best of her ability. You don't have to go inside yourself to have such a thing accomplished.
Keep reaching out until you find an answer. Good luck.