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Her daughter is her caregiver that has developed medical issues and can’t take care of her any longer. her daughter is moving away to get help with her medical issues.

This is not a responsibility you should take on. Her daughter should be making arrangements for her mother. She should be deciding where to place Mom so she can get care and maybe make it closer to you. Hopefully daughter has POA so she can handle the finances for Mom. Now friend has been diagnosed with ALZ she cannot assign someone as POA. Only guardianship can be done now and thats expensive.

You don't mention how old your friend is but you should take no more on than visiting her and maybe making sure she has what she needs. You should not use ur own moneyfor her needs. The daughter should reimburse you.

If the daughter leaves without setting up Moms care, call APS right away. This woman cannot be on her own. We have had many friends and neighbors who were trying to do a good deed by helping only to find out they became too emeshed. Then felt they had no way out. There isca way out, Adult Protection Services.
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The family will take care of her needs.
Just stay in touch with family and they will notify you if she moves, and where.
Stay a friend and visit her.
Best to you.
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BDMartin, welcome to the forum. We really need more information, such as what degree of Alzheimer's does this person have? Alzheimer's can last for a long time (my friend's wife it was 15 years). Will this person be moving in with you, and you will be her caregiver? Will your friend pay you for your care?


Or if she is moving into Independent Living then later into Memory Care, can she budget for the cost? Such cost are around $7,000 per month (depending on where you live) and much more in Memory Care.


Who is your friend's Power of Attorney? Will the Power of Attorney allow this person to move?
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Since you weren't asking whether you should or should not get involved with the care of your friend, I'll answer the question you did ask.

It's not ideal to move an AD patient out of their familiar environment because it can confuse and agitate them to do so. But AD is not an ideal situation by any stretch of the imagination anyway, and sometimes we have to do what we have to do.

For more info or to speak with someone in further detail, go to alz.org They have a huge amount of info and resources available on their website, a forum, and an 800 phone number as well.

Best of luck to you.
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BDMartin Sep 25, 2024
I realize not good to move. Her daughter has a brain tumor, and is not expected to live another year.
Friend with dementia is from the area we want to move her to, she’s lived in present area for 2 years.
she has been wanting to move back for quite some time.
once her daughter moves or dies she will have no one closer than 300 miles, except for phone contact.
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