I didn't get to record all of it, but I heard more that I care to hear or know. She said some horrible things about me and I'm deeply hurt. I want to confront her.
I really had no idea that she had such a low opinion of me. She made some terrible threats, and if she were to carry any of them out she could ruin me and my family. She lives next door, and had called me that she misplaced her keys. When she hung up, she didn't hang the phone up all of the way and I could hear her ranting. It's everyone's nightmare to realize someone you love hates you so much. Please don't tell me it's the disease talking. She was talking perfectly clear.
You heard your mother say very hurtful things about you. That doesn't mean those are her true feelings or that she has always secretly felt this way. It is the disease.
Learning more about dementia might help you weather these storms. My mantra became, "It is not my husband saying these things. It is the disease."
How are you doing? The first time my mom became belligerent with someone I called the police to let them know about mom's condition. In case that happens again at least the cops should be aware of your mothers condition.
Hugs. This sucks. We can't fix it, but we can sit here and hate it with you.
I think we should all go and buy a cat O' nine WHIP and beat ourselves with it yep we are the daughters from hell!!!
your mum loves you and hurts you because youre there shes mentally ill so accept it and try and ignore the rantings! I just laugh now as my mum dosnt know what the hell she is saying!
Whats a lot worse than my mum ranting abuse at me is that my stupid sister believes everything mum tells her and trust me that's worse.
I am now trying to get help from a social worker (who is useless) just to tell someone in authority my side before this escalates into mums rants getting worse and even dangerous.
Yep cover your ass as they say just in case someone believes her this is the scary thing about caring.
Big hug am going through some crap right now like this with mum apparently I don't care about her??
You can blame her for using those words, but please don't torture yourself by believing that she really means them deep down. Kazzaa is right. It's hard, but remember that she's nuts, and "consider the source," as they used to say. The source is the beta amyloid plaques in her brain.
She has had negative thoughts about you. Kids are so annoying! But it's temporary annoyance, not what she "really" thinks. Have you NEVER felt that she was a terrible mother? That doesn't mean that she WAS a terrible mother!