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Yes. It is a difficult situation for a family member to handle.
Are you part of the family?

Your question is legal. Contact an attorney.

However, please note that ...

It isn't 'bad behavior.' It it (99.99%) likely a form of dementia.
Dementia is caused by the changes in the brain and a person (mostly) cannot 'help it.'

They are often fearful, confused, trying to hold on to whatever independence they have / had / think they have. This doesn't mean its easy to be on the receiving end.

While I - and many of us - understand and experience(d) 'BAD BEHAVIOR,' (more than we ever wanted to and hope to never experience again...) please consider when you react to this behavior that you also consider / include compassion. . . When you see a person through compassionate eyes, it helps deal with the emotions associated with being on the receiving end of what you call 'bad behavior.'

See the person through their eyes and inside their head and heart.

Have her assessed by her medical professional.

Between a medical assessment and professional legal advice, you likely can make a decision.

Personally, I support you to do what is in your best interest(s).
If you cannot handle it, best to make other arrangements.
Otherwise, it will drain you in every way and the quality of your life will be severely diminished - and if that happens, it is not good for all concerned.

It likely isn't a good situation now. Thank you for asking us for information and support.

Gena / Touch Matters
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You can use the POA if she is not mentally competent to make decisions for herself. Get her evaluated by her doctor for mental competency. If the family doctor can not make this decision, ask for referrals to neurology and psychiatry to get evaluations, treatments, and a ruling on mental competency. If she is mentally competent, then explain consequences for problematic behaviors. I suggest reading any of the "boundary books" by Townsend and Cloud to help with the process.
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You want to place her ANYWHERE?

Put yourself in her place ...how would you feel to have all your rights to be stripped from you and thrown out like a piece of trash! You are talking about a human being! Not an old shoe! You have no idea how bad some of the places are out there. The neglect and abuse is horrible!

Have a little compassion!
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Beatty Mar 2023
Of course you may hold your own opinions. But such emotive & judgemental talk doesn't provide advice or solutions for the OP.
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FedupinCO: My opinion to your query would have to be based on how "bad" the behavior actually is, e.g. more information is required.
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What does this 'bad behaviour' mean? Not doing as told/instructed by others?

Behaviour is communication.

Maybe there is a gap between her care needs & what your household can offer?
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not if she is deemed able to make clear and cognitive judgments -- you need to secure a comprehensive psych evaluation then go to court to enforce the medical durable POA if she is competent
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Yes it’s a legal binding agreement
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My POA status allowed me to place my mom in a memory care. It was a durable POA. The hospital advised it.
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Yes, this person has 3 questions going within two hours.
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No, it doesn't. And bad behavior may be good enough reason to get her out of your home, but it isn't good enough reason to attempt to place her against her will.
POA for medical doesn't allow you to place people. That would be a general POA and a diagnosis of incompetency in the elder you are POA for, or guardianship or conservatorship.
Is this person related to you? Does this person live with you? Is this person diagnosed with dementia, and incompetent in her own care? Do you have general POA or guardianship?
You may need the advice of an elder law attorney for your questions.
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