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I would discuss this with your Mom; she knows her limitations. I would discuss this with your Mom, your Dad and hospice. They will help you understand how to move forward in your Mom's best interests.
I wouldn't worry too much about keeping mom 'busy' as she is actively dying.
I like the 'bucket list' idea. Due to poor health, we have come to realize that we are not going to see our 'bucket list' fulfilled. DH is just too weak and is not getting better.
We're just spending whatever time left with seeing and talking to our grands. DH has zero energy and has to lie down wherever we go. People pulling at him, wanting him to go golf or ski just makes him more depressed. He loved the Father's Day cards he got, so sweet.
Don't plan big parties or get togethers. Make sure that the friends and family she wants to see, she gets to see.
As sad as you will feel, don't transfer that to mom. She has her own demons to wrestle with. She doesn't need to feel guilt on top of every thing else.
She's only 42? That is tragic. My 2nd oldest is 42 and still seems like a kid to me.
I am so sorry that your family is now having to deal with this. Your profile says your mom is only 42. That is very young and means that you are very young as well. I would ask your mom if she has a "bucket list," and then try to accomplish as much as you can for her on that list, her health permitting of course. And if she has something like going to Paris(as an example) on her list and that just isn't doable now, you can take her on a "virtual" tour using your computer. Just spend as much quality time with her as you can. Laugh with her and cry with her, and just let her know how very much you love her. Make sure you leave nothing left unsaid. Your mom may want to write individual letters as well to you and and your dad, that you can read well after she's gone. You may also want to ask your mom questions about her life, so you can jot down the answers, and get to know her on a deeper level. That too you will appreciate after she is gone. But realistically, don't stress too much about what you should or shouldn't be doing. Instead, just enjoy each day that the Good Lord blesses you with, with your mom. Lifting you and your family up in prayer during this difficult time. God bless you.
I am so sorry for your mom's diagnosis. Heartbreaking to say the least. I'd spend quality time with her and cherish every moment. Ask her what she would like to do. Praying for you and your mom.
I'm sorry about her diagnosis. Activities will depend on her physical abilities and general energy levels. Reading to her, playing music for her, showing her family videos and funny animal videos so that you can laugh together. Others who have walked in your shoes will post more suggestions for you. May you receive peace in your heart and have sweet times together with your mom in the coming months.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I like the 'bucket list' idea. Due to poor health, we have come to realize that we are not going to see our 'bucket list' fulfilled. DH is just too weak and is not getting better.
We're just spending whatever time left with seeing and talking to our grands. DH has zero energy and has to lie down wherever we go. People pulling at him, wanting him to go golf or ski just makes him more depressed. He loved the Father's Day cards he got, so sweet.
Don't plan big parties or get togethers. Make sure that the friends and family she wants to see, she gets to see.
As sad as you will feel, don't transfer that to mom. She has her own demons to wrestle with. She doesn't need to feel guilt on top of every thing else.
She's only 42? That is tragic. My 2nd oldest is 42 and still seems like a kid to me.
Prayers for you at this sad time.
Just spend as much quality time with her as you can. Laugh with her and cry with her, and just let her know how very much you love her. Make sure you leave nothing left unsaid. Your mom may want to write individual letters as well to you and and your dad, that you can read well after she's gone.
You may also want to ask your mom questions about her life, so you can jot down the answers, and get to know her on a deeper level. That too you will appreciate after she is gone.
But realistically, don't stress too much about what you should or shouldn't be doing. Instead, just enjoy each day that the Good Lord blesses you with, with your mom. Lifting you and your family up in prayer during this difficult time. God bless you.